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　　标题：AreYouAddictedtotheApprovalofOthers？5WaystoOvercomeIt
　　source：huffingtonpost丨SheridanKesselman
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　　Areyoulivinglifehowyouwanttoliveit？Orareyoulivinglifeforotherpeople？Whatyoumightnotrealizeisthatwhileyouthinkyouarelivingthelifeyouwanttobeliving，rereallylivingforotherpeople。
　　Howcanyoutell？Professionally，areyoufullofpotentiallygroundbreakingideasthatcouldmovethecompanyoryourdepartmenttothenextlevelofsuccess？Doyoucontributetotheconversationordoyoukeepquietoutoffearofwhatyourcoworkersmightthink？
　　Personally，vewantedtomake，perhapstryanewhairstyle，shadeoflipstick，orevenfeelyoungagainbybuyingthetwodoorconvertible，butareterrifiedhowthiscouldchangethewayyourfriendsorfamilymemberslookatyou？Doyouoftenjustgowiththeflowanddowhatyourfriendswanttodooutoffeartheywillrejectyouridea？
　　Inyourintimaterelationshipwithyourspouseorpartner，vebeenwantingtotryinthebedroom，secretlyfantasizinghowitcouldtakeyoursexualrelationshiptothenextlevel，butaresoterrifiedofwhatyourpartnermightthinkthatitbringsonmoreanxietythanpleasuretothinkaboutit？
　　Irereallyfeelingbecauseofthefearofwhatotherpeoplemightthink，youaresufferingfromapprovaladdiction。Isconformityatallcosts。Themisguidedthinkingoftheapprovaladdictis，Itbelovedoracceptedunlessothersapproveofmybehavior。
　　OvercomeApprovalAddiction
　　Thegoodnewsisthatonceyouovercomeapprovaladdictioneventoasmalldegree，youbecomefreeofthepsychologicalchainsholdingyoubackfromreachingsuccessandhappiness。
　　Onascaleofonetoseven，sevenbeinghighest，howhighisyourneedtobeapprovedandvalidatedbyotherpeople？Next，askyourspouseorbestfriendtorateyouonthesamescale，andthencompareanswers。
　　Someotherwaystoovercomeapprovaladdiction：
　　1。Lno：Timeisyourmostvaluableresource。Asyougrowpersonallyandprofessionally，additionalprojects，favorsandvariousburdensthreatentoeatawayatyourtime。Identifyanactivitythatisnotgivingyoutheresultsorsatisfactionyouthoughtitwould。Makeacommitmenttodiscontinueit。Gmoreofteninordertoprotectyourprevioustimes。
　　2。Respectfullydisagreewithothers：Ifeveryoneagreedwitheachotherallthetime，thinkhowboringlifewouldbe。Hswithafamilymemberoracompletestrangerisagoodthing。Ofcourse，alwaysberespectfulaboutit。Bstakeonthematter，youareopeningyourselfuptopossiblylearningsomethingnew。
　　3。Dtalwaysplayitsafe：Mreapproachingthesamesituationthesamewayyouhaveforyearsorevenalifetime。Dtbeafraidtotakeariskandtrysomethingnew。Beopentonewthingsandstopworryingwhatothersmightthink。
　　4。SIonyourself：TWthinker。Wtlikeme？Whatiftheythinkmyideasaredumb？WhatifImbeingtooaggressive？CSthinkingandanswerthequestion。Stlikeme？Istheirloss。SowhatiftheythinkImdumb？WellatleastIcontributedandIcanfindsomeoneelsewhowillappreciatewhatIhavetosay。
　　5。PIfIcard：Askyourselfthiscriticalthinkingquestion：IfIshoulddietomorrow，amItrulysatisfiedwiththelifeIhavelived？Behonest。Mostpeoplegothroughlifetryingtoarrivesafelyatdeath。Weonlyhavesomuchsandinthehourglass，somakesuretolivelifehowyouwanttoliveit。
　　Whenitcomestoovercomingapprovaladdiction，rememberthis：youareresponsibletoyouremployees，customers，associatesandfriends，tobehonest，sincereandtoactwithintegrity。Butyouarenotresponsiblefortheirattitudesorbehaviortowardsyou。Hsmorepleasantthatway，butifnot，snotyourproblem。