他们说，你永远值得被爱

　　他们说，你永远值得被爱
　　不知道在什么时候看见过这样一句话，甚至说不止一次看见过，也许是书上，也许是电影里。初次听见这句话的时候，心里面觉得特别温暖与感动，前几天忽然想到了些其他东西。
　　如果说一个人与另一个人恋爱，当对方提出你的错误或者做的不好的地方，你的第一反应是我为什么要做出改变，我原本的样子就应该值得被爱，这就是不完美的我的样子，总有人会爱我的全部（当然排除对方觉得你一无是处，对你没有一点包容的情况，这里讲到的是平日谈话里语气温和的提出来的情况），这样的话，矛盾可能会一直存在，因为你不好的地方导致了你们生活里的小摩擦，在你认为自己应该值得全部被爱，不用为之改变的时候，你与更美好更融洽的生活失之交臂了。
　　再举一个例子，你会觉得并不是最初始的你就值得被爱被接受。当你去面试一项工作或者选择考研的时候，你面试的公司很可能因为你的各种缺失不选择你，比如说你没有学生工作经历、没有过英语六级、没有科创竞赛等；你选择的考研院校也可能因为你没有论文、没有科研经历等不选择你，这个时候，少部分人会觉得不公平，但我想大部分的人都明白是因为自己不优秀。其实正是因为公平，他们才会选择更优秀的人。
　　这样来看，＂你永远值得被爱＂这句话我觉得意思是在说人与人之间人格、尊严是平等的——每个人都是平等的，而不是说无论你多么不上进多么丧都必须要有个人毫无缘由的来爱你，就像履行上天给他的任务一般。
　　我觉得，上进、努力，是人生永远的关键词。
　　They say you are always worthy of love
　　I don＂t know when I saw such a sentence, or even said I saw it more than once, perhaps in a book or in a movie. When I heard this sentence for the first time, I felt very warm and moved in my heart. I suddenly thought of something else a few days ago.
　　If one person is in love with another, when the other person presents your mistakes or what you did badly, your first reaction is why I have to make changes. I should be loved as I am. This is not The perfect look of me, someone will love everything about me (of course, exclude the other person who thinks you are worthless and don＂t have any tolerance for you. This is the situation that is brought up in the usual conversation in a mild manner). In this case, there is a contradiction. It may always exist, because your bad places have caused small frictions in your life. When you think you deserve to be loved all and don’t need to change it, you will miss a better and more harmonious life.
　　To give another example, you will feel that you are not the first to be worthy of being loved and accepted. When you are interviewing for a job or choosing a postgraduate entrance examination, the company you are interviewing may not choose you because of your various deficiencies. For example, you have no student work experience, no CET-6, no science innovation competition, etc.; The university you choose for the postgraduate entrance examination may also not choose you because you have no papers, no scientific research experience, etc. At this time, a small number of people will feel unfair, but I think most people understand that it is because they are not good. In fact, it is precisely because of fairness that they will choose better people.
　　Looking at it this way, the phrase ＂you are always worthy of being loved＂ I think means that people are equal in personality and dignity—everyone is equal, not that no matter how motivated or mournful you are There must be someone who loves you for no reason, just like fulfilling the task God gave him.
　　I think that progress and hard work are the eternal key words in life.
　　——Google翻译
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