MeetCollins。真爱就是让彼此成为更好的自己

　　Dear Collins, when you tell me that you are lonely, I seem to be able to feel your sadness, because at the moment you said, I saw myself in the past, and I seemed to hug you, and that moment would be an instant. I shed tears and become unhappy because you are unhappy, and also because you laughed, and the corners of my mouth rise, even if we just met, but at the moment I saw you, I saw myself in you.
　　亲爱的柯林斯，当你和我说自己很孤独的时候，你的伤悲我仿佛都能够感同身受，因为你说的那一刻，我看到了过去的自己，我好像去拥抱你，我那一刻会瞬间流泪，会因为你不开心而变得不开心，也会因为你笑了，我也嘴角上扬，即使我们才刚刚认识，但是在我看到你的那一刻，我在你身上看到了我自己。
　　In this world, there are so many people who are mavericks. Why are there so few people like you and me? I have repeatedly thought about this question countless times, because people around me feel that I am different from them. In fact, my way of thinking is different from those around me, and my values ​​are even different? I keep a friendly smile with many people, but I rarely get to know me, and I don’t make friends easily. To put it plainly, I am a person of innocence by nature. The main reasons why I and the people around me don’t get well together are mainly due to the following two points. :
　　这个世界上特立独行，类似你我这种不合群的人为什么这么少？我曾经无数次反复思考过这个问题，因为我周围的人觉得我和他们都不同，其实是我的思维方式和身边的人不同，价值观更有所不同呢？我和很多人保持友善微笑，但是我很少会去让人了解我，也不轻易交友，说白了自己是一个生性凉薄之人，导致自己和周围人不怎么合群的原因主要有以下两点：
　　1. Most people are lazy, because a person has to be responsible to himself, to truly realize himself and become a unique person, he must make great efforts. Many people are afraid of hardship and trouble. I would rather give up myself and be a mediocre person.
　　一、大部分人很懒惰，因为一个人要对自己负责，真正做到完全去实现自己，成为一个独特的人，是必须付出巨大的努力的，许多人是害怕自己吃苦，也同样怕麻烦，就宁愿自我放弃自己，然后去做一个平庸的人。
　　2. Most people are particularly cowardly, because in an environment where everyone is mediocre, if a few people still pursue excellence and uniqueness, they will be ridiculed, jealous, and even persecuted, so they shrink back for self-protection, and follow the rules against their will. flow.
　　二、大多数人是特别怯懦，因为在一个大家都平庸的环境里，少数人若仍要追求优秀和独特，就会遭到讥笑、嫉妒甚至迫害，于是为了自保而退缩，违心地随大流。
　　If a person does not read and think for a long time, his values will have to be determined by his relatives, friends and his family, or some chicken soup with marketing numbers.
　　一个人如果长期不阅读思考，他的价值观就只好由他的亲朋好友以及自己的家人，或者是一些营销号的鸡汤来决定。
　　This is indeed the case. We often find such people in our lives. They say what they want to do, but the next day they suddenly changed their minds and said, ＂My mother said that the risk of doing this is too high, and girls are still steadfast. A class is the most reliable.＂ ＂Or my husband doesn＂t approve of me going to work, he said he will support me for the rest of my life.＂ ＂I read an article today and said that plainness is blessing, so I don＂t want to work so hard. .＂
　　事实确实如此，我们生活中经常会发现这样一些人，她们说好了要干嘛，可是第二天突然改变主意说，＂我妈说这样做的风险太高了，女孩子还是踏踏实实上个班最靠谱。＂＂或者说自己老公不赞成我去上班，他说他会养我一辈子。＂＂我今天看了一篇文章说，平平淡淡才是福，所以我不想那么拼命的努力。＂
　　Many people＂s lives are like this. They are prone to chasing Qin Muchu, being capricious, and drifting with the flow. They are always controlled by other people＂s ideas. They don＂t have consistent values, just like a wireless kite, which floats everywhere. In the end, nothing is done, and then I find various reasons for myself. This is the ordinary majority around us. I have observed their thinking for a long time, but I don’t like that I am such a person. When I think like this,
　　I never care what others say about me, and I never expect others to understand me. If everyone understands me and supports me, then I must be mediocre to the extent that people can understand at a glance.
　　很多人的生活就是这样的，他们容易朝秦暮楚，反复无常，随波逐流，他们总是被别人的想法左右着自己的人生，没有一以贯之的价值观，好比一个无线的风筝一样，到处飘荡。最后一事无成，然后给自己找各种理由，这就是我们周围的普通的大多数，我观察她们的思维很久了，但是我不喜欢自己就是这样的人，当我这么想的时候，我就从不在乎他人怎么说我，我也从不期待他人理解我，要是每个人都理解我支持我，那我要平庸到什么程度才能让人一眼就看明白。
　　I don＂t like to let myself become such a person, if so, I will hate myself, I can guarantee, so I don＂t like to make friends with such people, but I still keep friendly to such people around me, when they have difficulties to ask me for help, I am willing to help them, but I will never be with them deep friendship, let alone say intimate words。
　　This shows that it is the laziness of the majority that leads to the cowardice of the minority. On the contrary, if everyone takes responsibility for themselves and becomes proud of being excellent, then they can appreciate the excellence of others. Such an environment is most suitable for the growth of mavericks.
　　由此可见，是多数人的懒惰导致了少数人的怯懦。相反，如果每个人都对自己负责了，变得以优秀为荣，那么也就能够欣赏别人的优秀，这样的环境是最适合于特立独行的人生长的。
　　Group laziness is the biggest obstacle to the development of personality. In society, the free development of each inpidual’s personality means competition. Therefore, in order to be lazy, there are many people who hate others’ excellence. I would rather keep everyone at a mediocre level, so you see what kind of person you are. , You just want to change others into what kind of person, but people cannot change others, we can only do ourselves to influence others.
　　怯懦其实也是懒惰的副产品。首先存在大多数人的懒惰，从而不在追求个人的独特，这多数的力量便从而形成了一条防止个人变得优秀的警戒线，然后才有了人言可畏的怯懦心灵。
　　However, what I can’t stand is my mediocrity. As for the mediocrity of others, as long as they don’t pretend to be clever, I am willing to forgive the so-called mediocrity. I have no expectations and no demands on others. As for me, I am willing to help others. It’s just that I like to do that by myself, and doing that makes me feel that giving to others makes me very rich. It has nothing to do with me if they say thank you. Everything I do is for myself. Be willing to be in your own moments.
　　然而，我受不了的只是自己的平庸，至于别人的平庸，只要他们不冒充为自己是高明的，我是乐于原谅这所谓的平庸，我对他人没有期待更没有要求，至于我愿意帮助他人，那只是我喜欢自己那么做，那么做让我觉得给予他人让我内心很富足罢了，他们说不说谢谢和我也没有关系，我做的任何一件事都是为自己而作，都是出于自己每个当下的甘心情愿。
　　I can feel the joy of doing things. I don’t want to do other things. If I help others or do something for others, it’s to get people’s gratitude or return. I think this is simply asking for trouble instead of making myself happy. , I never base my happiness on others, but get it from my own heart, because doing so makes me feel powerful, cultivates my love, and makes my soul rich. This feeling makes me happy. That＂s why I did it.
　　我能够体会做事的快乐就可以，其他的事我不想，如果我帮助他人或者为其他人做了什么，是为了得到人家的感谢或回报，我觉得这简直就是自寻烦恼，而不是让自己快乐，我从不把快乐建立在他人身上，而是从自己内心获取，因为我这样做让我感觉自己很有力量，培养了我的爱心，让我灵魂变得富有，这样的感受让我幸福，所以我才这么做。
　　My happiness does not need to please others, because I am happy and rich in my heart. Only when I have love in my heart can I give love. A person cannot give others what he does not have. Therefore, to become a strong heart is to solve all problems. The fundamental way.
　　我的幸福无需取悦他人，因为我内心本身就是快乐富足的，我内心拥有爱，我才可以给予爱，一个人是无法给予他人自己没有的东西，所以让自己变得内心强大，是解决一切问题的根本之道。
　　I like to talk to Collins because I can feel that you trust me very much. I think Collins is a very kind person and very humble, but in the low-key humility reveals an elegant and calm confidence. This is a kind of The cultivation of character is a person of very gentleman character. When you talk to me, one sentence touches me very much. Love does not record wrong behaviors. It is true, you know, as long as people with such a kind heart can Have a warm and kind face.
　　我喜欢和柯林斯说话，因为我能够感受到你特别信任我，我觉得柯林斯是一个特别善良的人，并且特别谦虚，但是在低调的谦虚中透露出一种优雅而从容的自信，这就是一种品格的修养，是一个很有绅士品格的人，你和我说话的时候，一句话很感动我，爱是不记录错误的行为，确实就这样的，你知道吗，只要内心如此善良的人才会拥有一张温暖亲切的面容。
　　Montaigne said: ＂Trust in the kindness of others is enough to prove one＂s kindness.＂ Indeed, wicked people do not believe in kindness. In his view, others do not do evil just because they have no power, and those who have power but still do not do evil are fools. On the contrary, kind people tend to believe in the goodness of others, and therefore underestimate the possibility of evil people being present and doing evil.
　　蒙田说：＂对别人善良的信任，足以证明自己的善良。＂的确，恶人是不相信有善良这回事的。在他看来，别人不作恶只是因为没有力量，而有力量仍然不作恶的人都是傻瓜。相反，善良的人往往容易相信别人的善良，并因此低估了恶人存在并且作恶的可能性。
　　When I talk to you, I heard a lot of things about you make me feel very happy, I am proud of you from the bottom of my heart, you and I said, dear I am not so perfect, I want to say is that your imperfect side is the place that reflects my true value, so when the vulnerability is, please remember to tell me, you don＂t have to pretend to be strong here, If you can be a child to let you relax, I am very happy to play with this child, you get better I am particularly happy, you see your imperfection all the time to help me happy, I think the imperfection itself creates a new perfect and happiness.
　　当我跟你聊天的时候，我听到关于你很多的事都让我感到很开心的时候，我发自内心的为你而感到骄傲，你和我说，亲爱的我并不那么完美，我对次想说的是，你不完美的一面才是体现我真正价值的地方，所以当年脆弱是，请你记得告诉我，你在我这里无需假装坚强，如果能够做个孩子让你得到放松，我很乐意陪这个小孩子一起玩，你好起来我就特别的快乐，你看你的不完美无时无刻都在成全着我的快乐，我觉得不完美本身就造就着新的完美和幸福感。
　　A real person, a unique personality, must have outstanding advantages and disadvantages, exposed to others, without moral disguise, and this is where his morality lies, and that is what Collins presented to me. A self, you are the hero I met in my heart, I don’t seem to be good at it, but after meeting you, I can see a lot of the value of your existence from you, which makes me feel extremely happy .
　　一个真实的人，一种独特的个性，必有突出的优点和缺点，袒露在他人面前，并不加道德的伪饰，而这也正是他的道德所在，柯林斯呈现在我面前的就是这样一个自己，你是我遇到属于自己内心深处的那个英雄，我仿佛没什么擅长的，但是遇到你以后，我能够从你身上看到很多你存在的价值，这让我产生无比的幸福感。
　　You see, before I met Collins, how could I have written so many things, but after meeting you, I discovered that I can have so many ideas and tell you, what a magical thing, even myself I feel incredible. When I met you, I found another self hidden in my body. After meeting Collins, I felt that this self was revealed and became complete. I thank God from the bottom of my heart, Collins is my life Exception in
　　It is also a preference given to me by God, and it is an unexpected surprise in my life! Meeting Collins is enough to make my life shine.
　　你看看，没遇到柯林斯以前，我怎么可能写出来这么多东西，但是遇到你以后，我竟然发现自己可以有这么多想法和跟你说，多么神奇的一件事，连我自己都觉得太不可思议了，遇到你，我发现我身体里潜藏着另一个自己，在遇到柯林斯以后，感觉这个自己被呈现出来，变得完整起来，我发自内心的感谢上帝，柯林斯是我生命中的例外，也是上帝给我的偏爱，更是我生活意外的惊喜！遇见柯林斯足够让我的人生绽放光彩。
　　We are two souls completed independently, although we have experienced different lives, but after our experience, the experience and feelings of inner precipitation are so similar that I will be attracted by you at the moment I just met you, I am a fool who loves to laugh in life, of course, I understand that the person who has the same smile as me should be so close to me, isn＂t it?
　　我们是独立完成的两个灵魂，虽然我们各自经历过不同的人生，但是我们在经历以后，内心沉淀的阅历和感受是如此的相似，以至于我刚遇到你的那一刻就会被你吸引到，我是一个生活中爱笑的傻瓜，我当然明白那个有和我同样笑容的人应该和我如此接近，不是吗？
　　I have countless times in the middle of the night crying, but I always tell myself, can smile, maybe one day, someone will fall in love with my smile, and then told me that you are really important to me, until I met you, I didn＂t understand God let us meet the right person before, will certainly arrange the wrong person and we meet, we hurt after growth, We will know how to cherish each other, because your existence, let my life become meaningful, I understand, a person who makes you laugh, how can you cry.
　　我也曾无数次在深夜里哭泣，但是我总会告诉自己，笑一下可以吗，或许有一天，会有个人爱上我的微笑，然后和我说，你对我真的很重要，直到我遇到你，我才懂上帝在让我们遇到对的人之前，肯定会安排错的人和我们相逢，我们受伤成长以后，我们才会更懂得珍惜彼此，因为你的存在，让我的人生变得意义非凡，我才明白，一个让你笑的的人，怎么会舍得让你哭。
　　Maybe I didn’t think I looked good since I was little. I smile just because I’m afraid that people will dislike me when I say something wrong, so keeping a smile can help me avoid a lot of troubles in life. Over time, this smile on my face, but when I meet you You tell me that I have a great smile. At that moment, I feel that I am laughing inside my heart. My children＂s family used to say what I am laughing at. I don＂t even know what I am laughing. It may be the expression that I have formed since childhood. That＂s it,
　　But when you said that, I knew I really laughed because of you!
　　我或许从小到大都没觉得自己好看，我微笑只是怕人家嫌弃我说错话，所以保持微笑可以让我避免生活中很多麻烦，久而久之我脸上就沉淀了这样微笑的表情，但是遇到你，你告诉我我拥有一个了不起的微笑，那一刻的自己，瞬间觉得自己内心都是在笑，以前孩子家人都说我笑啥，我根本不知道自己在笑，有可能就是从小到大形成的表情而已，但是你说的时候，我知道自己真的因为你而笑了！
　　I wrote the name of this story is to meet Collins, you say you like the story, in fact, I prefer the name of the story, if you use a sentence to describe love, that is, your name makes me feel very magical, I was so ordinary, perhaps there is a little inferiority complex, because of your love, I blossom a lot of light, in fact, are awakened and healed by your love!
　　我写了这个故事的名字叫遇见柯林斯，你说故事你很喜欢，其实我更喜欢故事的名字，如果用一句来简述爱情，那就是你的名字让我觉得很神奇，我本来是如此的普通，或许还有那么点小自卑感，因为你的爱，我身上绽放出很多的光芒，其实都是被你的爱唤醒和疗愈！
　　You may think you are ordinary, but this ordinary Collins is my hero in my heart, just as you told me that you can conquer the world with one hand, as long as I hold the other hand, I tell you now, I would like to hold this hand for a lifetime, and then write down our story, with a lifetime to tell the world. Any time you love yourself well, then you will meet someone like us who has a good soul. Before you meet such a person, let yourself become a person with a fragrant soul, which will naturally attract the same person to appear in our life. There is a good love in the world, but the premise is to live yourself into a better self before you meet a good person.
　　你或许觉得自己很普通，但是这个普通的柯林斯在我内心就是专属我的英雄，就如同你告诉我，你可以用一只手征服世界，只要我握住另一只手就可以，我现在告诉你，我很愿意一生握住这只手，然后把我们的故事写下来，用一生的时间来告诉这个世界，任何时候好好爱自己，然后就会遇到如同我们这样灵魂契合的人，在遇到这样的人之前，让自己先成为一个灵魂有香气的人，自然会吸引过来同样与之匹配的人出现在我们的生命中，世界上存在美好的爱情，但前提是在遇到美好的人之前，把自己活成那个更好的自己。
　　A soul mate is a person with whom we feel a deep connection, as if we are communicating with each other, not out of deliberate effort, but with the guidance of our hearts, and it is very important to meet people who support each other＂s souls in our lives. A soul mate is not half of the soul, but we are all complete souls, so true love is going to ourselves, not to others. To judge whether you have become better, there is only one criterion, to see whether you have become more or less happy in your daily life. A person wants to know whether the person he meets is right or not, and whether he has changed better than before. If the answer is yes, it means that the person you meet is right, and the so-called true love makes each other better.
　　所谓灵魂伴侣，就是一个我们感受自身与之深深联系在一起的人，好像彼此的沟通和交流，不是出于刻意的努力，而是凭内心的引导，一生中能够遇到供养彼此灵魂的人非常重要。
　　灵魂伴侣并不是灵魂的一半，而是我们彼此都是完整的灵魂，所以真爱是走向自己，不是走向别人。要判断自己是否变得更好了，只有一个标准，看看自己在日常生活里，快乐变得更多了，还是变得更少了。一个人想要知道自己遇到的人是不是对的，看看自己是不是变得比过去更好了，如果答案是肯定，那就说明你遇到的人是对的，所谓真爱就让彼此成为更好的自己。