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　　标题：HowToApproachWomenWithoutBeingCreepy
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　　Haveyoueverseenacreepyguyfreakoutawomanbysimplytalkingtoher？Ihaveseenitmanytimes。WheneverIdo，mystomachturnsupsidedown。Infact，notsolongagoIwasoneofthoseguys。AfterIhadorderedmoreproductsonpickingupgirlsthanmycreditcardcoulddealwith，IwasexcitedandmotivatedtotesteverythingIhadlearned。Iwasreadytobecomeoneofthegreatestseducersofalltime。IwasreadytobeareallifeDonJuan。Iwasreadyforitall。
　　Or，soIthought。Turnsout，whatIwasn’treadyforwasthetruth。Ithoughtthatmywayofapproachingwomenresembledthevideosofthoseguyswhodidthisforaliving。However，whatIreallylookedlikewasaninsecurelittleboywhotriedtosellsomestuffthathedidn’tbelievein。
　　Imadeeverymistakethatyoucanpossiblymake。IthinkitgoeswithoutsayingbutIcreepedoutalotofwomenonmyroadtodatingsuccess。WhatIalsodidn’tknowbackthenisthatthisbehavioriscompletelynormalforalotofguys。
　　TheyseesomethingcrazyinaYouTubevideo，expectthatitworkswitheverysinglegirlontheplanetandtheyjumprightintoit，withoutthinkingaboutwhetherornottheiractionsmakeanysense。OfcourseyoucantakethesameroadasItookandgetcalibratedafterexperiencingonerejectionafteranother。
　　Youcandothat，butyoucanalsochooseanotherpath。Checkoutthesefollowingfivewaysthatgivewomenthecreepsandavoidthemliketheplague。Allowyourselftotaketheshortcuttosuccess。
　　Don’ttouchherbeforesheseesyou
　　Approachingwomensoundsridiculouslyeasyintheory，butthetruthisthatyoucanalreadymakethefirstbigmistakebeforeyoueventalktoher。Youmighthaveseensomecrazypickupartistrunninguptoagirlfrombehind，touchingherneckandgettingawaywithit。However，justbecauseit’sonYouTubedoesn’tmeanthatitisagoodideatodoit。
　　Don’tgetmewrong，runninguptoagirlfrombehindisabsolutelyokay。What’snotokayistotouchherbeforesheseesyou。Whenyourunuptoagirlwhoiswalkinginfrontofyou，youhavetomakesurethatsheseesyourfacebeforeyousaythefirstword，andespeciallybeforeyoutouchher。
　　Everythingelsewillmostlikelyscarehersomuchthatthelastthingshewantsistogoonadatewithyou。Shedoesn’tknowifyouareathief，arapist，orjustadecentguywhowantstogettoknowheruntilsheseesyourfriendlyface。
　　Respectherprivatespace
　　Whatdoyoudoafteryoushowedherthatyouarejustafriendlyguywhowantstogettoknowher？Accordingtoalotofselfproclaimedpickupartiststhisistherighttimetoshowthatyouarethestrongandaggressivealphamanthatcancrusharockwithhisbarehands。Asaresultofthisdelusionalobsessionwiththealphamalearchetype，alotofguysgivewomenthecreepsbydisrespectingtheirprivatespace。
　　Iknowthattheguyinthevideocoursesaidthatyoushouldbeasalphaaspossible，butthatdoesn’tmeanthatyoushouldstandsoclosetoherthatshecanalreadysmellthehazeofyourarmpits。That’sabittooalpha。
　　Insteadofscaringherawaybystandinginfrontofherlikeabouncer，youshouldratherapproachherwithaconfidentbutfriendlyvibewithoutbeingtoopushy。Givehersomeairtobreatheandshewillgiveyousometimetosaywhatyouwanttosay。
　　Don’tstareatherlikeaserialkiller
　　Anotherbigmistakethatalotofguysmakeistoassumethattheynotonlyhavetolooklikeastrongalphadude，butthattheyalsohavetostarelikeone。Idon’tknowaboutyou，butIdon’tenjoytalkingtosomeonewholooksasifhewantstoripmeintotwopieces。
　　I’mnotsayingthatyouhavetoputonafakeHollywoodsmiletocastaspelloverawoman。AllIwanttosayisthatstaringatherlikeaserialkillerisnotparticularlyhelpful。Unlessyoulearntoprojectyourconfidencewithoutlookingasifyouhavetobattlewithreallynastydiarrhea，youwillalwaysbetheguywhogivesherthecreeps。
　　Watchyourbodylanguage
　　Ifthereisonethingthatmakeswomenmoreuncomforthanaguywhotriestotakebeingalphatothenextlevelisaguywhoshowsthatheisextremelynervous。Don’tgetthisthewrongway。Itisabsolutelyfinetobeabitnervousandtohaveoneortwobloopers。
　　Ihowever，starttospeakfasterthantheroadrunnersays“meepmeep”andstartswingingyourarmsasifyouwereanoctopusthatswallowedtoomuchecstasy，you’llgetnowherefast。Youhavetocalmdown。Breathein，breatheout。Focusallyourenergyonyourbodylanguage。
　　Youdon’tneedthebodylanguageofJamesBondtoimpresswomen。Standinginarelaxedwayandcontrollingyourgesticulationisallthatisneeded。Oh，andstopfumblingaroundwithyourzipper。
　　Understandwhen“no”means“no”
　　Theinability（ortheunwillingness）tounderstandthataserious“no”actuallymeans“no”isthefastestwaytocreepoutawoman。Idon’tknowwhy，butsomeguysactuallybelievethatawomanmeans“yes”whenshesays“no”。
　　Well，insomecasesthisistrue，butonlyifshesaysitsarcasticallywithabigsmileonherfacewhilesheisplayingwithherhair。Whenshesaysitwithaseriousfacialexpressionandadefensivebodylanguageyoucanbe100surethatshereallymeans“no”。Itisyourjobtorespectherdecision。