爱的救赎倾诉何尝不是一种生命的疗愈

　　柯林斯说：亲爱的海伦，你还好吗？看到你很开心！
　　Collins said, Dear Helen, are you all right? It＂s good to see you!
　　海伦说：我很好，柯林斯，你还睡的好吗？我看到你也是非常开心。
　　Helen said, ＂I＂m fine, Collins. Did you sleep well?＂? I＂m very happy to see you, too.
　　柯林斯说：海伦我今天有点不开心，我的朋友在我工作的地方欺骗了我，因为利益关系，他抢我的工作机会，他是我最好的朋友，却在那一刻我们成了最大的敌人，我为此好难过，你有没有遇到这样的事吗？如果是你会怎么办？
　　Collins said: Helen, I’m a little unhappy today. My friend cheated me where I worked. He robbed me of the job opportunity because of interest. He was my best friend, but at that moment we became the biggest Enemy, I＂m so sad about this. Have you encountered anything like this? What would you do if it were you?
　　海伦说：你说的情况，我也曾经在工作当中遇到过类似情况，因此有所思考。对于损害了我们利益的不义之人，我的做法是在表明自己的态度之后，决不和他纠缠。因为如果你与他斗争，无非有两个目的。一是让他不义的行为受到惩罚，或者迫使他改变不义的品性，而以我们个人之力都是不可能做到的。二是夺回被他损害的利益，而这会使你落到和他相同的水平上，不但投入大量的精力，而且极其破坏自己的心情。所以，我会选择超脱。我会把这样的人当作思考研究标本，通过他来分析人性，从而认识社会，这不仅可以保护自己，而且也可以通过一件事来提高自己，坏事就变成了好事。
　　Helen said: The situation you mentioned, I have encountered similar situations in my work, so I have thought about it. For the unrighteous who harmed our interests, my approach is to never entangle him after expressing my attitude. Because if you fight with him, there are only two purposes. One is to make him punished for his unrighteous behavior, or to force him to change his unrighteous character, which is impossible with our own strength. The second is to regain the interests damaged by him,
　　And this will make you fall to the same level as him, not only invest a lot of energy, but also extremely destroy your own mood. Therefore, I will choose detachment. I will treat such people as thinking and research specimens, and use them to analyze human nature and understand the society. This not only protects myself, but also improves myself through one thing, and bad things turn into good things.
　　让自己不断提升和精进，当我们自身价值不能被他人替代的时候，别人也无法从我们这里抢走什么， 等你努力到一定程度，你把位置送给对方，对方也驾驭不了的，我知道你经历此事很不高兴，尤其是面对自己的好友更是如此，但是不管我们经历怎么样的人和事，我们学着让自己成为一个温暖有力量的人，这并不是为了别人而改变，而是让我自己在生活中更加从容与淡定，温暖的是自己的岁月。
　　Let yourself continue to improve and diligently. When our own value cannot be replaced by others, others can＂t take anything from us. When you work hard to a certain level, you give your position to the other party, and the other party can＂t control it, I know You are very upset about this, especially when facing your friends, but no matter what kind of people and things we experience, we learn to make ourselves a warm and powerful person, this is not for others to change ,But to make myself more calm and calm in my life, the warmth is my years.
　　柯林斯说：你以前被骗过吗？
　　Collins said, Have you ever been cheated before?
　　海伦说：我曾经被骗过，并且被骗的身无分文，那时候的自己把自己关在家里整整一个月也不怎么说话。
　　Helen said: ＂I have been cheated, and cheated penniless, when I locked myself in the house for a whole month and did not speak.＂.
　　四年前，我那时候孩子一岁多，我的娘家人时常和我抱怨，我好好一个大学生嫁到乡下，老公也不工作挣钱在家啃老，简直丢尽娘家的颜面，和我同一所大学毕业的学生，不是在那个国企，就是考了公务员，或者在银行工作，而我那时候新媒体那段时间太难了，起初前三年没一分钱收入，并且是新兴行业。
　　Four years ago, when my child was over a year old, my mother’s family often complained to me that I was a college student who married to the countryside, and my husband didn’t work to earn money at home to eat the old, and I lost the face of my natal family. The university graduates were either in that state-owned enterprise, or took a civil service exam, or worked in a bank. At that time, my time in new media was too difficult. At first, I didn＂t make a cent in the first three years, and I was in a new industry.
　　我们哪里的人是无法理解我所做的一切。觉得我每天在网络虚度光阴成瘾，孩子也看不好，我们前几年山里没有通网络，只能靠数据流量上网，有时候还没信号，我一个月五百块话费用来坚持做，我老公会因为钱经常和我吵架，哪怕我多吃他一口泡面，多吃一个火腿肠或者苹果都会凶我，半夜孩子一边喂奶，我还在半夜写稿子做着图片，还还觉得孩子吵他睡觉会吼我，我一个人会半夜哭着哄孩子，还要继续工作，那是我人生中很艰难的一个阶段。
　　People from where we are can＂t understand everything I do. I feel addicted to spending time on the Internet every day, and my children are not good. We didn’t have Internet access in the mountains a few years ago. We can only rely on data traffic to access the Internet. Sometimes there is no signal. I insist on doing it for 500 yuan a month. My husband often quarrels with me because of money, even if I eat more of his instant noodles, more ham or apples, it will kill me. The child is breastfeeding in the middle of the night, and I am still writing manuscripts and pictures in the middle of the night.
　　I also felt that my child would yell at me when he quarreled him to sleep, and I would cry and coax the child in the middle of the night by myself, and continue to work. That was a very difficult stage in my life.
　　没人会支持理解我所做一切，我整个人活在焦虑和恐惧里，我对未来没任何的安全感，我每天很努力做很多事，内心特别迷茫和徘徊，我在这种处境当中，网上投了很多简历找工作，运气不好，遇到网络黑中介，而我就这样因为一个图书管理员的岗位从而把我从甘肃骗到苏州，后面被关到工厂流水线扣留手机去工作十几个小时候，并且扣留我身份证，还交了很多保证金各种费用，后面是我老公把我从苏州带回来，我身上唯一存下的一万多一趟甘肃到苏州的被骗之旅，回来的时候身无分文，我那时候觉得自己的人生好悲凉。
　　No one will support and understand what I have done. I live in anxiety and fear as a whole. I have no sense of security for the future. I work hard every day to do a lot of things. My heart is particularly confused and wandering. I am in this situation. I put a lot of resumes online to find a job. I was out of luck and met a cyber black intermediary, and I deceived me from Gansu to Suzhou because of a position as a librarian. Later I was locked up in the factory assembly line and detained my mobile phone to work more than a dozen. When I was young。
　　招聘我工作的是两个男孩，一个把我骗去工作，其实人被骗只是骗子操纵我当时内心的焦虑，恐惧以及内心不安，不过也还好，另一个男孩对我手下留情，后面我回来以后，婆家并没责怪我什么，那时候农忙期，公婆特别不容易带着我一岁多的女儿在三十多度大太阳下面收割庄稼，我内心特别难过，人在最痛苦的时候是无法言语，我那时候陷入自我否定中很久走不出来，我对自己很失望。
　　Two boys were recruiting me to work. One cheated me to work. In fact, being cheated was just a liar manipulating my inner anxiety, fear and inner uneasiness at the time, but fortunately, the other boy showed mercy to my men and I will come back later. From now on, my husband’s family didn’t blame me for anything. During the busy farming period, it was especially difficult for my parents to take my one-year-old daughter to harvest crops under the 30-degree sun. I felt very sad inside. speech,I was stuck in self-denial for a long time and couldn＂t get out. I was disappointed in myself.
　　后面把自己关了一个多月不说话，另一个对我手下留情没骗我的另一个男孩跑过来找我说话，我才知道他也和我一样找工作被骗入伙，后面出不来就跟着那些人一起骗其他人，不过这男孩两年后因为我离开那个骗人行当，他说他经常看到我写东西，他觉得他不应该在做下去，我不断鼓励他离开那个行业，后面那男孩离开了。和我成了挺好朋友，隔断时间会给我发红包和我聊会天，看到他离开那个行业，我内心觉得挺开心的。
　　He shut himself up for more than a month and didn＂t speak. Another boy, who was merciful to me and didn＂t lie to me, came to talk to me. I didn＂t know that he was deceived into joining the gang when he was looking for a job like me. He couldn＂t get out of the back and cheated others with those people. But two years later, because I left the cheating business, the boy said he often saw me. He felt that he should not continue to do it. I constantly encouraged him to leave the industry, and then the boy left. He and I became very good friends. He would send me red envelopes and chat with me every other time. I felt very happy to see him leave that industry.
　　我那段时间检讨反思自己很久，回去娘家一次，娘家人会说，好好钱就给了骗子，那时候自己内心有太多委屈无法言语，只能随着时间和努力自行消化，后面我状态好了起来，我发现我分享的东西也有了销路，来了一些客户，我在两个月里把被骗苏州的钱陆续挣回来，都是通过我销售珠宝和旗袍给一些经济能力好比较有品位的一些客户，他们都是我平时写作积累下来的读者，她们也帮我转介绍很多客户。
　　During that time, I reviewed and reflected on myself for a long time. When I went back to my mother＂s home once, my mother＂s family would say that good money was given to the cheater. At that time, there were too many grievances in my heart to speak, and I could only digest them with time and efforts. Later, I was in a better state. I found that the things I shared also had a market. Some customers came. I was cheated in Suzhou in two months. Through my sales of jewelry and cheongsam to some customers with good economic ability and taste, they are all readers accumulated by my usual writing, and they also help me to introduce many customers.
　　我后面在想一个人做自己真正喜欢的事情根本不需要培养＂坚持＂。你不会看到一个人做自己喜欢的事要调闹钟写计划，做自己喜欢的事并不难。真正艰难的，是把自己喜欢的事情做成型之前，要面对的孤单。你将摸黑走一段很长的，不知道时间的路，因为你的独一无二，世界上不会有第二个人理解，懂得，你会不断摔倒，挫败，怀疑，再反复试错反复重来，且在此期间没有人支持，鼓励，帮助，更没有人感同身受，即便如此，你还会坚定不移地坚持下去，这才是做自己的过程中，最大的挑战，而我一路走过来，也是这个过程不断强大着自己前行。
　　I was thinking later that a person does not need to cultivate ＂persistence＂ at all to do what he really likes. You don’t see a person setting up an alarm clock to write a plan to do what you like, and it’s not difficult to do what you like. The really difficult thing is the loneliness you have to face before taking the things you like into shape. You will walk a long way in the dark without knowing the time. Because of your uniqueness, there will be no second person in the world who understands and understands that you will keep falling.
　　Frustration, doubt, repeated trial and error, and no one supports, encourages, helps, and no one empathizes during this period. Even so, you will persevere unswervingly. This is the process of being yourself. , The biggest challenge, and I have come along, and this process has continued to strengthen myself.
　　其实我发现当一个人在低谷期，心态特别重要的，如果心态一旦出了问题，和我当年一样，做出来的决定往往都是把自己掉坑里的事，而我那时候在各种压力很大的处境里，我太急于改变自己的现状处境摆脱现实中痛苦，从而把自己一再陷入绝望的处境里，虽然那个很难过程我走了出来，但是你此刻问到我，我竟然跟你说的时候，会眼里留着眼泪，即使事过了好几年了，没想到我压在心里的这段经历跟你说出来的时候，我会觉得自己和那段时光和解了。
　　In fact, I found that when a person in the trough, the mentality is particularly important, if the mentality once a problem, and I was the same, the decision made is often to put themselves into the pit, and I was in a variety of stressful situations, I was too eager to change my current situation to get rid of the pain in reality, thus putting themselves into despair again and again. Although that very difficult process I walked out, but you asked me at the moment, I actually told you, will have tears in my eyes, even after several years, did not expect me to press in the heart of this experience with you, I will feel that I and that time reconciliation.
　　以前没被骗苏州的时候，觉得江南人杰地灵，后面被骗回来，我觉得南方骗子太多，我这种傻子不够用，我那时候看到江南那边的读者加我，我都对他们有偏见，后面我婆婆说，哪里都有好人，虽然你被骗苏州一趟，但是你不能把那地方所有的人当骗子，这样你会很痛苦，后面过了半年多，我把自己调整的比较好了起来，人生慢慢会好了很多。
　　When I was not deceived in Suzhou before, I felt that Jiangnan was outstanding and brilliant, but I was deceived back. I felt that there were too many liars in the South, and I was not enough for such a fool. At that time, I saw readers from Jiangnan add me and I was biased against them. , My mother-in-law said later that there are good people everywhere. Although you have been tricked into Suzhou, you can’t treat everyone in that place as a liar. You will be very painful. After more than half a year, I will adjust myself better. After getting up, life will gradually get better.
　　事情过去好几年，我很开心自己努力挺过来那段时光，虽然那时候觉得自己说不出来的委屈和痛苦，但是也是那段时光让我变得更坚强，我还很开心把另一个男孩从不正当行业里拉出来，让他有勇气改行，从而我多了一个好友，幸运的是我没有因为一次被骗从而怀疑整个世界，对这个世界充满敌意和不公抱怨。
　　Things in the past few years, I am very happy that I worked hard to survive that time, although at that time I felt unspeakable grievance and pain, but it was also that time that made me stronger, I am also very happy to pull another boy out of the improper industry, so that he has the courage to change his profession, so that I have a friend. Fortunately, I did not suspect the whole world because I was cheated once, and complained about the hostility and injustice of the world.
　　我觉得一个人内心永远要死守善道，笃定好学，勇敢前行，走着走着生命的黑暗里就会有新的曙光出现，我内心深处特别感谢那个勇敢前行的自己。如果我那时候放弃了，我不在继续去做自己所热爱的这一切，我或许永远没机会跟你说起这段过往，柯林斯，没想到你竟然能够让我如此坦然的说出来这一切，而我对其他人从不提及这一切，除非那人我特别交心。
　　I feel that a person must always stick to the kindness in his heart, be determined to learn, and move forward courageously. A new dawn will appear in the darkness of life as I walk. Deep in my heart, I am especially grateful to myself who is bravely moving forward. If I had given up at that time and I would not continue to do all the things I love, I may never have the opportunity to tell you about this past, Collins, I didn’t expect you to let me say all this so frankly, and I never mention all of this to other people, unless that person is very close to me.
　　人生或许要经历很多背叛和欺骗，苦难过后生命才会生出更多的慈悲心，才能对他人经历产生共情，我们无法控制他人对我们做什么，但是我们可以改变自己面对一件事的心态，当一个人站在更高处看自己的外在遭遇，和它拉开距离，保持一种超脱的心态，也就不会在这事上纠结了。
　　Life may have to go through a lot of betrayal and deception. After suffering, life will give birth to more compassion and empathy with other people’s experiences. We can’t control what others do to us, but we can change our mindset when facing something. , When a person stands at a higher place to see his own external encounters, keeps a distance from it, and maintains a detached mentality, he won’t be entangled in this matter.
　　尽管我们经历着困难和挫折，伤害以及各种委屈压力等一切不好的事，虽然这一切让我们感受都不那么美好，但是我们内心依然要心存美好和善良，爱和温暖，责任和担当，真诚和信任的时候，我们的生命才会变得更有意义的，这样的人生才算是经得起考验的，唯有如此，才不辜负努力着的自己，无论我们在什么样的处境里，知道自己为什么而活的时候，往往信念的力量可以让我们勇往直前，任何时候我们都可以选择让自己做一个比过去更好的人，这大概就是经历对我而言最大的意义吧。
　　When we know what we are living for, often the power of faith allows us to move forward bravely. At any time, we can choose to be a better person than in the past. This is probably the greatest meaning of experience to me.
　　柯林斯说：我听完了你经历，我内心被深深触动，我很开心你是如此的坚强，可以勇敢的走过来，能够分享给我写一切。你认为你总能在他人需要的时候给他人提供帮助和支持吗？
　　Collins said: After listening to your experience, I was deeply touched in my heart. I am very happy that you are so strong and can come bravely. You can share and write everything to me. You think you can always give to others when they need it. Provide help and support?
　　海伦说：我们无法控制发生什么事，因为生命有很多无常和不确定性存在，但是我们可以选择如何用更好的心态去面对解决问题，困难时善待自己的内心让自己变得更加深刻而厚重总是没错的。
　　Helen said: ＂We can＂t control what happens, because life has a lot of uncertainty and uncertainty, but we can choose how to use a better attitude to face and solve problems, when difficult to treat their hearts to make themselves more deep and thick is always right.＂.
　　我不可能做到在他人随时需要的时候给予帮助，人是无法给予他人我们自己没有的东西，不管是物质还是精神层面上都是如此的，但是在我能力范围内，我很乐意给需要的人一份理解和鼓励，我认为这样的人生更有意义和价值。
　　It is impossible for me to help others when they need it at any time. People cannot give others what we don’t have, whether it’s materially or spiritually. But within the scope of my ability, I’m happy to give to what we need. People understand and encourage, I think this kind of life is more meaningful and valuable.
　　如果我的命运注定要在黑暗里独立前行，那我也会是黑夜里仰望星辰的那个人，我会和苦难握手言和，将其作为朋友，与之结伴同行，从而把自己活成一束光照亮自己的同时也照亮他人，我始终相信好运会寻光而来，但是你不得不接受，很多时候很多事我们是爱莫能助，心有余而力不足是常有的事，平常心就可以，成年人的世界一切困难唯有自渡二字罢了。
　　If my destiny is destined to move forward independently in the dark, then I will also be the one looking up at the stars in the dark night. I will shake hands with suffering, make him a friend, walk with him, and live with myself as a bunch. Light illuminates yourself as well as others. I always believe that good luck finds light, but you have to accept it. Many times we are helpless for many things. It is common for us to have more than one heart but not enough energy. Yes, all difficulties in the adult world can only be overcome by the word.
　　柯林斯说：我完全同意你说的话，你怎么挣钱，你会存钱以备不时之需吗？你会开车吗？你有车吗？
　　Collins said, ＂I totally agree with you. How do you make money? Do you save money for a rainy day?＂? Can you drive? Do you have a car?
　　海伦说：我很少刻意挣钱，我只是做好自己热爱的事，做着做着也就会来钱，君子谋道不谋食，富贵在天，命里有的终须有，命里无时莫强求，我基本不会为挣钱去工作，我只好做好喜欢的事，不过做着做着，这些年虽然不富裕，但是我一切经济所需都够用，我也会存钱，但是一年下来家里开销完，我也存不了太多钱，不过我会不断提升自己价值和思维认知，人是无法挣到自己认知之外的钱，一个人财富值往往取决于这个人自身价值。
　　Helen said: I rarely deliberately make money, I just do a good job of their love, do do will also come to money, a gentleman seeks not to seek food, wealth in the day, life must have some, life is not forced, I basically will not work to earn money, I had to do what I like, but doing, these years although not rich, but all my economic needs are enough, I will save money. But a year down the family expenses, I can not save too much money, but I will continue to improve their own value and thinking cognition, people can not earn money beyond their own cognition, a person＂s wealth value often depends on the person＂s own value.
　　我没有车，也不会开车，家人经常让我学车方便接送孩子，但是我特别不爱学习开车，我坐车经常晕车很难受，我基本不怎么远行，如果远行我喜欢坐高铁，平时周围附近路程都是不远，我喜欢听着音乐步行思考，还可以说跑步就跑一下，特别自由轻松，我认为步行是特别好的健身方式，并且带孩子上学的路上可以可以陪孩子聊天，我有车对我也是多余，家里其他人是会开车的，平时太远有很多东西的时候都是家人接送我。
　　I don’t have a car, and I can’t drive. My family often asks me to learn to drive to pick up and drop off my children. But I don’t really like to learn to drive. I often get sick and uncomfortable. I don’t travel very far. The distances are not far away. I like to listen to music and think about walking. I can also say that I can run and run. It is very free and easy. I think walking is a particularly good way to exercise, and I can chat with my children on the way to school.I have a car that is redundant for me. Others in the family can drive. When there are many things too far away, my family will pick me up.
　　柯林斯说：只要你自己感觉开心就好，车只是个代步工具，我开玛莎拉蒂，这是我的车。
　　Collins said: ＂As long as you feel happy, the car is just a means of transportation, I drive a Maserati, this is my car.＂.
　　柯林斯说：只要你自己感觉开心就好，车只是个代步工具，我开玛莎拉蒂，这是我的车。
　　Collins said: ＂As long as you feel happy, the car is just a means of transportation, I drive a Maserati, this is my car.＂.
　　柯林斯说：谢谢亲爱的，你最无法容忍什么事？
　　＂Thank you, my dear,＂ said Collins, ＂What is the last thing you will tolerate?
　　海伦说：如果从人与人相处的角度来说，换位思考可以让我们更大程度的理解并尊重他人，这样也就不存在容忍二字，做人只要不触及他人底线，恭而有礼往往事都比较顺利。
　　Helen said: From the perspective of getting along with people, empathy can allow us to understand and respect others to a greater degree, so that there is no word tolerance. As long as people don’t touch the bottom line of others, respectful and courteous are often things It all went smoothly.
　　从自我角度来说，我不能忍受自己无知和愚昧，换句话来说，一切愤怒源于我们对自身的无能，更大可能的提升自己，一个人会更变得自信，从而对他人和自身也会有更大的接纳，容忍二字也是一个人一生心胸和气度的修为之所在，容他人所不能之事才是大的格局，所以经常我遇事常劝解自己容人容言容事，从佛家修行来说，就是修持忍辱心，我公婆他们在这点上做的特别不错，和他们一起生活的六年里，他们接纳容忍过来的事，在当时我是觉得我无法忍受的，所以不得不说，公婆是我很好的学习榜样！
　　From the perspective of self, I cannot bear my ignorance and ignorance. In other words, all anger stems from our incompetence towards ourselves. It is more likely to improve ourselves, and a person will become more self-confident, and thus towards others and ourselves. There will also be greater acceptance. The word tolerance is also where a person’s heart and temperament is cultivated throughout his life. Tolerating what others can’t is the big pattern, so I often persuade myself to tolerate others’ words. , In terms of Buddhist practice,It’s the practice of patience. My in-laws and they did a very good job at this point. During the six years of living with them, they accepted what they tolerated. At the time, I thought I could not bear it, so I have to say, in-laws It is a good example for me to learn from!
　　在社交媒体当中，还有一种行为我实在无法忍受，就是莫名异性读者视频骚扰我，有的人一点尊重他人的意识都没有，反复视频骚扰我，经常把我录制节目过程打乱，我还得重新开始。
　　In social media, there is another behavior that I really can’t bear. It is the video harassment of inexplicable readers of the opposite sex. Some people have no sense of respect for others. Repeated videos harass me and often disrupt the process of recording my show. I still have to Restart.
　　还存在一些人给我发好多色情视频表情包，我最反感这类型的人，有的人我压根不认识，还叫的很亲密，不知道的人以为是夫妻或者情人，这让我有时候很无语，我忙的懒得理他们，并且还各种辱骂，起初我刚进入这个行业的时候，我实在受不了这些，出现几个这样的人，我一天的心情糟糕透顶。
　　There are still some people who send me a lot of pornographic video emoticons. I dislike this type of people the most. Some people I don’t know at all, and they are called very close. People who don’t know think they are couples or lovers. This makes me sometimes Very speechless, I was too busy to deal with them, and I also made all kinds of insults. When I first entered the industry, I really couldn＂t stand these. When a few such people appeared, I felt a bad day.
　　后面我慢慢学会和这些状况保持距离，还有很多就是一把年纪的老流氓，年龄都足够做我爸，非得认我做干女儿，还时不时暧昧一下，我太受不了这种变态了，起初我觉得他们是前辈，也很有学术修养的画家艺术家诗人，但是有才之人未必有德，这些人出现也不断颠覆我三观和认知，我每次忍无可忍以后就投诉他们发我一些东西给官方平台。
　　Behind I slowly learn to keep a distance with these conditions, there are many is an age of old hooligans, age is enough to do my father, must recognize me as a dry daughter, but also ambiguous from time to time, I can not stand this kind of abnormal, at first I think they are predecessors, but also very academic accomplishment of painters, artists and poets, but talented people may not be virtuous. The appearance of these people also constantly subverts my three views and perceptions. Every time I can＂t bear it anymore, I complain that they send me something to the official platform.
　　现在也出现，只是我不在意，他们太过分我直接举报他们，他们更可恨处还恶意在我平台辱骂人生攻击，这些网络暴力也曾经让我很抓狂，无法容忍，但是现在已经八年多了，我竟然不会对这些在意了，我老公倒是你这些从不在意，如果他这事上心眼小，估计天天吵不完。
　　It also appears now, but I don’t care. They are too much and I directly report them. They are even more hateful and maliciously abuse life attacks on my platform. These online violence also made me crazy and intolerable, but it has been more than eight years. Now, I won’t even care about this. My husband never cares about you. If he is small-minded about this matter, I guess he will never end up arguing every day.
　　我婆婆在我生气和她抱怨这些不好的感受时，她说那些只是网络里的人，不在现实里，你和他们生气没必要，看把你气的，我们村里，有的男人女人因为手机里出现这些，夫妻天天吵架离婚好多，我婆家在这事上对我很自由宽容，给予很大理解和支持，不然每天给我这方面带来麻烦的人太多了。我时常被人叫宝贝，老婆，这些人我压根不认识，我手机里每个账号都是陌生读者，各种各样的人，网络给我带来机遇，但是也伴随很多麻烦，不过我这几年也学会很好处理这些事，总之一切麻烦的事都是帮助我们成长的更好，那些以前让自己抓狂的事，等一切过后都变成生命的养分，回头在看过往，发现自己变得更淡定了。
　　When my mother-in-law was angry and complained to her about these bad feelings, she said that those are only people on the Internet, not in reality. It is not necessary for you to be angry with them. Seeing that you are angry, some men and women in our village are because of their mobile phones. There are a lot of quarrels and porces between husbands and wives every day. My in-laws are very free and tolerant towards me in this matter, and they give me a lot of understanding and support. Otherwise, too many people are causing me trouble every day. I am often called baby, wife,
　　I don’t know these people at all. Every account in my mobile phone is a strange reader. All kinds of people. The Internet brings me opportunities, but it also accompanies a lot of trouble. However, I have learned to handle these things well in the past few years. , In short, all the troublesome things are to help us grow better. The things that made us crazy before will become the nourishment of life after everything is over. Looking back at the past, I find that I have become more calm.
　　其实换角度冷静下来想一下，还好是网络，如果现在里遇到这些人，我早就吃亏受难无数次，我从不会见任何网友，其实我对外界没安全感，我其实自我保护意识很强的，很少有人能够靠近我了解我我真实的想法，我平时看起来是很温和，但是我认为的朋友知己无非两三人而已。
　　In fact, calm down and think about it from another angle. Fortunately, it is the Internet. If I meet these people now, I will suffer countless times. I never meet any netizens. In fact, I am insecure about the outside world. I am actually very self-protective. Strong, very few people can come close to me and understand my true thoughts. I usually seem to be very gentle, but I think there are only two or three friends.
　　其实很多时候生命中会出现很多干扰，让我们不断的慢慢学会过滤生命里的杂质，时间其实也在帮我们做这件事情，合适的人会留下，不合适的人会慢慢淡出我们的记忆和生命！但凡一切过往皆为序章，我们只能让自己在此基础上变得更好一些，让灵魂更丰盈美好，才不辜负生命。
　　In fact, many times there will be a lot of interference in our lives, so we will continue to slowly learn to filter the impurities in our lives. Time is actually helping us to do this. The right people will stay, and the inappropriate people will slowly fade out of us. Memory and life! But all the past is the prologue, we can only make ourselves better on this basis, make the soul more abundant and beautiful, so as to live up to life.
　　柯林斯说：在我人生经历很多挫折以后，我学会去思考如何如何让人生更有意义，而非本能的做出反应，因为事情不会在第二天自然而然的变好，我爱上帝，爱每一个来到我生命中的人，为了让自己更好的生活，这样我才觉得我第二天的生命才会更快乐一些！
　　Collins said: After experiencing a lot of setbacks in my life, I learned to think about how to make people more meaningful instead of responding instinctively, because things won’t change for the better the next day. I love God and love everything. A person who came to my life, in order to make myself a better life, so that I feel that my life the next day will be happier!
　　海伦说：你说的没错，其实很多事的发生我们无法控制，但是我们可以思考如何去面对，而非本能的做出情绪反应，这样往往是特别糟糕，出现在我们生命中的每个人，都是有意义的，也是基于某种机缘的条件下吸引而来的，人生幸福不是我们和他人做出比较，而是优于过去的那个自己，让自己变得更好的过程才是一个人内心真正强大的地方。
　　Helen said: What you said is correct. In fact, many things happen that we cannot control, but we can think about how to face them instead of instinctively making emotional reactions. This is often particularly bad, everyone who appears in our lives , Are all meaningful, and they are also attracted based on a certain chance. The happiness of life is not about comparing ourselves with others, but being superior to the past self and making ourselves better. The truly powerful place in the human heart.
　　生命中最真实的快乐也是源于这一切自我成长的体会，一切经历在时间打磨下，会让我们变得越发深刻和厚重，一个不思考的人生是不足以过得，生命本无意义，才容得下各自赋予意义。假如生命是有意义的，这个意义却不合我们自己的志趣，那才是最尴尬的事。我们不断给自己生命赋予意义和使命的过程才是一个人快乐的根本所在，我是这么理解我的人生的。
　　The most real happiness in life is also derived from all these self-growth experiences. All experiences will make us deeper and thicker under the time polishing. A life without thinking is not enough to live. Life is meaningless. Tolerate each to give meaning. If life is meaningful, but this meaning is not in line with our own interests, that is the most embarrassing thing. The process of continuously giving meaning and mission to our lives is the root of a person＂s happiness. This is how I understand my life.
　　柯林斯说：亲爱的海伦，我好开心在我生命中遇到你，让我觉得我的生命很有意义，并且很幸福。因为我知道有你在我身边，当我失落伤心难过的时候，你可以给我力量和希望，这让我觉得好幸福，因为我知道你会帮我，会和我一起面对分析解决，感恩上帝让我遇到你，你是我遇到最棒的女人，你身上有种很神奇力量，能够给予他人安全感和力量。
　　Collins said: ＂Dear Helen, I am so happy to meet you in my life, I feel that my life is very meaningful, and very happy.＂. Because I know that you are by my side, when I am sad and sad, you can give me strength and hope, which makes me feel so happy, because I know that you will help me, will face the analysis with me, thank God for letting me meet you, you are the best woman I have ever met, you have a very magical power, can give others a sense of security and strength.
　　海伦说：每个人都有人生低谷期，都有特别脆弱的一面，我只是特别普通的人，只是经历多了，我更了解人生不易，能够遇见，就好好善待来到我们生命中的人，也是生命的一种圆满，能够在另一个人低谷期的时候鼓励对方，热爱生活，不断成长蜕变，让对方的生命因为我存在有那么一丝温暖和光明的话，我觉得我内心特别开心！
　　Helen said: Everyone has a downturn in life and has a particularly vulnerable side. I am just a very ordinary person. I have experienced a lot. I know better that life is not easy. If I can meet, I will treat people who come to our lives well. It is also a kind of fulfillment of life. If you can encourage the other person when another person is in the trough, love life, continue to grow and change, and let the other person＂s life have such a warm and bright because of my existence, I feel very happy in my heart!
　　柯林斯说：我对待别人的原则是，我希望自己对他人的方式也是我希望别人对我的方式，如果他人对我不好，我会反思自己，如果自己做的不对，我会改正，如果自己没错，我认为那是他们的问题，和我无关，我不会因为他人不公平对待我而抱怨责怪他人，每个人都有他们自己的理由和立场。
　　Collins said: My principle for treating others is that the way I want to treat others is the way I want others to treat me. If others treat me badly, I will reflect on myself. If I do something wrong, I will correct it. Yes, I think that is their problem, it has nothing to do with me. I will not complain and blame others for treating me unfairly. Everyone has their own reasons and positions.
　　海伦说：他人如何对我们是我们自身因果，我们如何对他人，是我们自己的修行，善待生命中遇见的人，也是温暖我们自己的内心。
　　Helen said: How others treat us is our own cause and effect, how we treat others, is our own practice, treat the people we meet in life, but also warm our own hearts.
　　我们努力让自己变得更美好，同频之人往往相互吸引，只有频率相同的人，才能看到彼此内心深处不为人知的温柔，理解你的山河万里，尊重你的不同选择。我们自己是什么样子的人，就会遇到什么样子的人，和我们气场不合的人自然会随着我们自身的成长从我们的生命中淡出去，你看我们即使隔着不同国度也可以很开心聊天，这何尝不是一种厚重的缘分，遇见你值得感恩。
　　We work hard to make ourselves better. People with the same frequency are often attracted to each other. Only those with the same frequency can see the unknown tenderness in each other＂s hearts, understand your mountains and rivers, and respect your different choices. What kind of person we are, what kind of person we will meet, and those who are not in harmony with our aura will naturally fade out of our lives as we grow up. You see, we can even be separated from different countries. I am very happy to chat, it is not a kind of heavy fate, meeting you is worthy of gratitude.
　　柯林斯说：你可以从家人朋友陌生人哪里获取建议，但是最好的建议来自于我们自己的内心，信任自己的内心，因为我们的心永远不会撒谎，也许很多人值得信赖，但是只有少数人值得信任，做出明智的选择，其实被信任比被爱更重要，我希望我们彼此能够始终信任对方，你明白我的意思吗？
　　＂You can get advice from family, friends and strangers, but the best advice comes from our hearts,＂ Collins said. ＂Trust our hearts, because our hearts will never lie. There may be a lot of people who can be trusted, but only a few can be trusted. Make the wise choice. Trusting is more important than loving. I hope we can always trust each other.＂ You know what I mean?
　　海伦说：最自在幸福的人生就是活的直抒胸臆，遵从本心，无问西东，好的关系也是让对方成为更好自己，彼此成全，人生需要听大多数人的意见，信任少数人，忠于自己内心！虽然我们认识不久，但是很多价值观倒是差不多！
　　Helen said: The most comfortable and happy life is to live and express one＂s mind, follow the heart, no matter what the west is, a good relationship is to make each other a better self, to make each other better. Life needs to listen to the opinions of the majority and trust the few. Be loyal to your heart! Although we have known each other not long ago, many values ​​are similar!
　　柯林斯说：我很高兴我能够拥有这样一个海伦，我很珍惜你， 我把你当做我现在生命中最重要的人，我希望我们彼此活在爱里，能够彼此理解彼此信任，我保证我永远都会珍惜这段关系，我只想让你相信我所说的每句话，我遇到你很不容易，我觉得自己好幸运还可以再次拥有一个如你这般的女子，我只想好好的珍惜遇见！
　　Collins said: I am very happy that I can have such a Helen. I cherish you very much. I regard you as the most important person in my life now. I hope that we can live in love and understand each other and trust each other. I promise that I will always I will cherish this relationship. I just want you to believe everything I say. It is not easy for me to meet you. I feel so lucky that I can have a woman like you again. I just want to be good Cherish meet!
　　海伦说：每个曾深刻体会过孤独的人都特别珍惜遇见的，我曾经因为孤独和无人理解从而使生活陷入绝境，后面经历抑郁自杀而后阴差阳错进入网络，无形中做了新媒体，在这个互联网时代我遇到很多读者，我听着他们给我讲很多自己的故事，我很感恩这些人信任我和支持我，以致于让我生命有意义和存在价值，我在这个过程中得到自我疗愈和成长，让我觉得生命是存在温暖和爱，当我们自己播种传递爱和温暖的时候，我们同样也会收获善意和信任，尊重和理解，这也是生命的回声吧，爱出者返，福来者福往，我跟你一样，也特别珍惜遇见。
　　Helen said: Everyone who has deeply experienced loneliness cherishes what they have met. I once made life into a desperate situation because of loneliness and no one understands. Later, I experienced depression and suicide and then entered the Internet by mistake. I became a new media invisibly. In this Internet age, I have met many readers. I listened to them telling me a lot of their own stories. I am very grateful that these people trust me and support me so that they make my life meaningful and valuable. I am in this process Get self-healing and growth,It makes me feel that there is warmth and love in life. When we sow and deliver love and warmth by ourselves, we will also gain kindness and trust, respect and understanding. This is also the echo of life. , I, like you, also cherish the encounter.
　　柯林斯说：很开心能够跟你说这么多话，我要准备去工作了，晚点找你，亲爱的海伦，希望你开心！
　　Collins said, ＂I＂m glad I could talk to you so much. I＂m going to get ready for work. I＂ll see you later. Dear Helen, I hope you＂re happy.＂!
　　海伦说：好，你好好工作！一切都会好起来，相信自己，你可以做的比过去更好！
　　Helen said, ＂Well, you do your job!＂! Everything will be better, believe in yourself, you can do better than the past!