书籍推荐被讨厌的勇气

　　书籍推荐《被讨厌的勇气》
　　书籍简介
　　本书以心理学家阿德勒的理论为基础，以一位哲人和一位青年的谈话展开论述，以56篇千字短文组成。
　　经典语句
　　如果我改变，世界就会改变。世界不是靠他人改变，而只能靠我改变。
　　现实性的人生就是这样，无论怎样回顾之前的人生也无法解释自己为什么会走到此时此刻。
　　并不存在普遍性的人生意义，人生意义是自己赋予自己的。
　　因为过去和现在根本不存在，所以才要谈现在。起决定作用的不是昨天也不是明天，而是此时此刻。
　　人生很简单，并不是什么深刻的事。如果认真过好了每一个刹那，就没有什么必要令其过于深刻。
　　跨出家门的那一瞬间，旅行已经开始，朝着目的地出发途中的每一个瞬间都是旅行。
　　人生是连续的刹那。
　　如果你能够拥有甘于平凡的勇气，世界的看法也会截然不同。
　　无论是希望特别优秀还是希望特别差劲，其目的都是引起他人的关注，脱离普通的状态，成为特殊的存在。
　　书籍解读
　　一、 如何摆脱过去的创伤：我们的不幸是由自己选择的，否定弗洛伊德的心灵创伤论，要从目的去看待现在的行为，而不是从过去的经历找原因。决定我们自身的不是过去的经历，而是我们赋予经历的意义。
　　二 、人际关系是一切烦恼的源头：追求别人的认可，害怕被别人讨厌，对他人抱有期待，是人机关系痛苦的原因，采用＂课题分离＂让人际关系变得非常简单，达到＂共同体感觉＂能得到幸福的人际关系。
　　三、 最重要的是＂此时此刻＂，而不是过去和未来
　　英文翻译
　　This book is based on the theory of psychologist Adler, and is based on a conversation between a philosopher and a young man, and consists of 56 short essays with a thousand words.
　　Classic statement
　　If I change, the world will change. The world is not changed by others, but by me.
　　Real life is like this, no matter how you look back on your previous life, you can’t explain why you have come to this moment.
　　There is no universal meaning of life. The meaning of life is given to oneself by oneself.
　　Because the past and the present do not exist at all, so we have to talk about the present. It is not yesterday or tomorrow that is decisive, but the present moment.
　　Book interpretation
　　1. How to get rid of the trauma of the past: Our misfortune is chosen by ourselves. To deny Freud＂s trauma theory, we must look at our current behavior from the purpose, rather than from the past experience to find the cause. It is not the past experience that determines ourselves, but the meaning that we give to the experience.
　　2. Interpersonal relationship is the source of all troubles: Pursuing the approval of others, being afraid of being hated by others, and having expectations of others is the cause of the pain in the human-computer relationship. The use of ＂subject separation＂ makes interpersonal relationships very simple and achieves a ＂community.＂ Feeling＂ can get happy interpersonal relationships.
　　3. The most important thing is ＂this moment＂, not the past and the future
　　2021·RECRUIT
　　参考资料：知乎，百度，谷歌翻译
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