爱之救赎人生最大的遗憾是什么？

　　柯林斯说：早安，我亲爱的海伦，你晚上休息的好吗，我昨晚有梦到你在和我说关于哪位校长的故事，醒来才发现，原来是梦，你没有和我说话？如果你不介意，可否告诉我关于我们上次聊天你和我提到有关那位校长的故事？我想说亲爱的我爱你，有关于你的一切，我都很感兴趣，我想多了解你一点，才会更懂得给你所希望的爱，我觉得在你心里你特别在乎那个校长，我想知道你们之间发生的一切故事。
　　Collins said: Good morning, my dear Helen, how are you going to rest at night? I had a dream last night that you were telling me a story about which principal, but only when I woke up, it turned out to be a dream and you didn’t talk to me. ? If you don’t mind, can you tell me the story about the principal you mentioned to me in our last chat? I want to say, my dear, I love you. I am very interested in everything about you. I want to know more about you so that I will know how to give you the love you want. I think in your heart you care about that principal, and I want to know all the stories that happened between you.
　　海伦说：早安，亲爱的柯林斯，这么巧，我遇到你的这些天里，我也有梦到过你笑的样子，谢谢你对我如此有耐心和兴趣，校长在我前几年的生命中，也是特别重要的人，一定程度上是我很爱他的，在我生命中很重要的人，只是那个时候，我不怎么懂得如何去爱对方，于是我们之间出现了一切矛盾和争吵，后面校长再也不会回我信息，那段时间，我特别的难过，而后我很怕有人走近我内心，但是后面我不断自我学习成长了，我知道如何处理亲密关系里的各种矛盾，以及如何换位思考，后面两个人在网络相处了三年多，和亲人一样无话不谈，更是知己，彼此经历磨合过的关系更为长久，我和校长之间算是细水长流的感情，算的上久处不厌，时间久了，不是很浓烈，但是时间久了，也会彼此想念。
　　Helen said: Good morning, dear Collins, it’s such a coincidence. In the days when I met you, I also dreamed of you smiling. Thank you for being so patient and interested in me. The principal＂s life in my previous years China is also a very important person. To a certain extent, I love him very much. A very important person in my life, but at that time, I didn’t know how to love each other, so all conflicts and quarrels appeared between us. , The principal will never reply to me again, During that time, I was particularly sad, and then I was afraid that someone would come close to my heart, but I continued to learn and grow up later. I knew how to deal with the various contradictions in close relationships and how to empathize. The next two people were I have been on the Internet for more than three years. I have nothing to talk about like my relatives, but also a confidant. The relationship we have experienced is even longer. The relationship between the principal and I can be regarded as a long-lasting relationship. It is not very strong, but after a long time, I will miss each other.
　　他很像我的心情记事本，我总是可以一个人面对他对话框说很多话，就好比自己一个人的独白，但是我从不会觉得一个人说话尴尬，也不期待他回我信息，他工作很忙，并且手指痛，打字相对很少，但是他有空就会看我说什么，算是一个很懂我的人，所以我一直叫他暖暖，我也有时候小情绪会和他闹腾一会儿，他自尊心比较强，我总是会低头认错哄一下他，他情绪很稳定，是个很有智慧的男人，并且情商很高，他很喜欢从事教育事业，是一个很不错的老师，他的学生都很喜欢他，我们网络相处今年已经四年了，我很感谢我生命中有这样一个人。
　　I always bow my head and confess my mistakes to coax him. He is emotionally stable, a very intelligent man, and has a high EQ. He likes to pursue education and is a very good teacher. His students like him very much. We It＂s been four years since I got along online this year, and I am very grateful for such a person in my life.
　　柯林斯说：我也很想成为你生命中的唯一，我想知道你的一切，海伦，你理解里的爱情是什么？你和校长是怎么走到一起的，你们那时候有没有想过要在一起生活？
　　Collins said: I also want to be the only one in your life, I want to know everything about you, Helen, what is love in your understanding? How did you and the principal come together? Did you ever think about living together?
　　海伦说：其实每个人在婚姻外会和其他异性产生一种情感，一定程度是婚姻生活内在出现失衡，从而会产生外求，但是两个人从没有想过在一起，只是我们彼此的伴侣不懂彼此的精神世界，爱情的产生源于一个人灵魂深处的孤独感，孤独可以把人还原的一无所有，也同时能把人还原到最完整的自我拥有状态，很多年了，我很都变成一个人学会享受孤独。
　　Helen said: In fact, everyone will have an emotion with other opposite sex outside of marriage. To a certain extent, there is an imbalance in the marriage life, which will cause external demands, but the two have never thought about being together, but our partners don’t understand each other. In each other’s spiritual world, love arises from the loneliness deep in a person’s soul. Loneliness can restore a person to nothing, and at the same time, it can restore a person to the most complete state of self-ownership. After many years, I have become One learns to enjoy loneliness.
　　柯林斯说：你现在理解意义上的爱情应该是什么样子的？
　　Collins said: ＂Do you now understand the meaning of love should look like?＂
　　海伦说：爱情其实是一种反人性本能的东西。人的本能存在自我保护以及利益的最大化，不会轻易让人有伤害自己的机会。而爱情，既没有天生无法选择的血缘牵绊，也没有等价交换的利益驱动，同时还让人心甘情愿地展现自己的软肋，给他人伤害自己的权力，还需要用自己宝贵的时间和精力去试图倾听和理解另一个人，同时还要把自己的世界分给对方一半。我想爱情是这世间最没有道理，却也最宝贵的东西。它并不是一件必需品，爱情算得上是一件奢侈品，真正能获得爱情的人是极少数，爱情对相爱者的境界和心灵品级的要求是很好的，爱情是属于那些有灵魂属性的人才配拥有的感情！
　　Helen said: Love is actually an anti-human instinct. Human instinct exists for self-protection and maximization of interests, and it will not easily give people the opportunity to hurt themselves. And love has neither inherent blood ties that can’t be chosen nor the benefit drive of equivalent exchange. At the same time, it also makes people willingly show their weaknesses, give others the right to hurt themselves, and also need to spend their precious time and energy. Trying to listen and understand another person, At the same time, you have to pide your world into half. I think love is the most unreasonable but also the most precious thing in this world. It is not a necessity. Love can be regarded as a luxury. There are very few people who can really get love. Love has very good requirements for the realm and spiritual quality of the lover. Love belongs to those with soul attributes. The feelings that talents deserve!
　　柯林斯说：亲爱的海伦，你说的我完全认同，我也是这么想的，你分析的爱情特别的到位。你觉得爱情里最重要的是什么呢？
　　Collins said: ＂Dear Helen, what you said I fully agree, I also think so, your analysis of love is particularly in place.＂.What do you think is the most important thing in love?
　　海伦说：我认为爱情里，两个人能在一起，是因为骨子里的价值观一样，所以为了确保彼此价值观一致性，需要反复沟通，沟通的过程是彼此交换意见的过程，而不是谁顺从谁的过程。说假话顺从对方，讨了对方欢心你自己也是痛苦的，过不长的。时刻记住做你自己，大大方方表达自己的意见和价值观，在爱人面前学会做真实的自己很重要。
　　Helen said: I think that in love, two people can be together because of the same values ​​in their bones. Therefore, in order to ensure the consistency of each other＂s values, it is necessary to communicate repeatedly. The process of communication is the process of exchanging opinions with each other, not the process of who obeys. . If you tell lies to obey the other party, and please the other party＂s heart, it is painful for yourself, and it doesn＂t take long. It is important to always remember to be yourself, to express your opinions and values ​​openly, and to learn to be yourself in front of your lover.
　　柯林斯说：对啊，所以我特别喜欢跟你交流，跟你说话的感觉太让我感觉愉悦了，并且有很多的收获，我喜欢海伦，喜欢你带给我很快乐轻松自在的感觉，跟你在一起是一件无比美妙的事，我觉得自己遇见你是我人生中特别有意义的一件事，亲爱的，你知道吗？我最喜欢两类人，一类人他们比我优秀，另一类人能够使我变得优秀，但我最喜欢的是愿意和我一起变优秀的人，遇见你让我变得更好，但是我希望我们永远在一起，一起成为更好的自己，可以吗？
　　Collins said: Yes, so I especially like to communicate with you, the feeling of talking to you makes me feel so happy, and there are a lot of gains, I like Helen, like you bring me a very happy and relaxed feeling, with you is a wonderful thing, I think I met you is a special meaningful thing in my life, dear, you know? I like two kinds of people most, one kind of people they are better than me, the other kind of people can make me become excellent, but I like the most is willing to become excellent with me, meet you let me become better, but I hope we will always be together, together to become a better self, can you?
　　海伦说：亲爱的柯林斯，我很开心你会这么想，但是我觉得人生很遗憾，我已经有婚姻，这意味着我有属于自己的责任，即使我婚姻不是让我感觉的如此完美，但是我也接受不完美本就人生常态，我做不到离开这个家跟你在一起，这样我会内心不安的，我更做不到去伤害家人，我把身体给了这个婚姻，但是我灵魂却是自由的，可以许给爱情，有一天你会幸运的遇到一个跟你可以共度余生的女孩，给你一个幸福的家，我希望这个愿望可以实现，我希望你可以幸福！
　　Helen said: Dear Collins, I am very happy that you think so, but I feel that life is very regrettable. I already have a marriage, which means that I have my own responsibilities. Even if my marriage is not so perfect for me, I I also accept that imperfection is a normal life. I can’t leave this home to be with you. I will feel uneasy. I can’t hurt my family. I gave my body to this marriage, but my soul is Free。
　　我刚结婚的时候，我觉得婚姻生活中的矛盾以及压力特别大，我也曾经想用爱情填补自己内心的空虚、麻木以及迷茫。但是后面我发现爱情并不是一剂良药，它是更深的致幻剂。我想要在爱情中寻找的，其实是我自己，你需要的是自己的爱，自己的认可，从来就不是别人的爱。
　　When I first got married, I felt that the contradictions and pressures in my marriage life were particularly great, and I also wanted to fill my inner emptiness, numbness and confusion with love. But later I found that love is not a good medicine, it is a deeper hallucinogen. What I want to find in love is actually myself. What you need is your own love, your own recognition, never the love of others.
　　我在婚姻起初，不懂的如何去爱自己，从而导致我感觉不到其他人爱我。所以我也在爱情中越来越迷失，越来越痛苦纠结，那时候我一直在想，我不就是想要一个人好好爱我，为什么这世上就没有呢？为什么人生这么不公平？当时我和校长那段感情就是陷入这样的矛盾和痛苦之中，后面我通过不断自我成长和心灵疗愈后发现，我要找的爱，一直在自己的心里面，而不是从校长那里索取爱。我后面懂得，世界上没有任何一个人可以真正爱我，除非我自己首先学会爱自己，如果我们不懂得如何自爱，又何谈爱情？
　　At the beginning of my marriage, I didn＂t know how to love myself, so I didn＂t feel loved by others. So I am also more and more lost in love, more and more painful entanglement, at that time I have been thinking, I do not just want a person to love me, why there is no in this world? Why is life so unfair? At that time, my relationship with the principal was in such contradiction and pain. Later, through continuous self-growth and spiritual healing, I found that the love I wanted to find was always in my heart, not from the principal. I later learned that no one in the world can really love me, unless I first learn to love myself, if we do not know how to love ourselves, how to talk about love?
　　柯林斯说：亲爱的海伦，看来你和校长之间的感情给你带来很大痛苦，你才会有如此深刻的自我反思和体会，如果可以给我一个机会，我愿意用一生好好的呵护你，疼爱你，我不舍得你在感情里受到任何的伤害，我会认真的回复你信息，会陪伴你，不会让你觉得总是一个人在说话。我知道一个人自言自语，很想有人陪的时候，对方没有给予你相信的回应，这感受非常不好，我也同样有过这样的感觉。
　　Collins said: Dear Helen, it seems that the relationship between you and the principal has brought you a lot of pain, and you will have such a deep self-reflection and experience. If you can give me a chance, I am willing to take good care of my life. You, love you, I don＂t want you to be hurt in any way, I will reply your message seriously, will accompany you, and will not make you feel that you are always talking alone. I know that when a person is talking to himself and wants someone to accompany, The other party didn＂t give you a response that you believed. This is very bad, and I have also felt that way.
　　海伦说：爱情中存在的所有问题以及痛苦，最终都让我学会如何更好的爱自己，爱情看似是两个人的事情，但其实一定程度上是自己一个人的故事。大部分的爱情，并非爱情，而是一种需求而已，所以我们在爱情中体验不到幸福和快乐，而是自己内心的匮乏以及自己童年的缺失而已。
　　Helen said: All the problems and pains in love eventually taught me how to love myself better. Love seems to be a matter of two people, but to a certain extent it is a story of myself. Most of the love is not love, but a need, so we don＂t experience happiness and joy in love, but our inner lack and the lack of our childhood.
　　而真正的爱是爱对方原本的样子，你不需要对方变成任何我们想要的样子，我们只是单纯完全的接受他这个人。如果你想改变对方，那只是为了满足自己对爱的幻想罢了。真的爱一个人，是不管对方爱不爱你，是不管他和谁在一起，你都会在心里爱他，他的幸福就是你的幸福，就算他这个幸福不是因为你，这才是真正的爱，而不是为了满足自己的爱。多少人能做到？你爱他可以不求拥有，不求回报吗？如果不是，你不是真的爱他，你只是想和他交换爱，做爱情的等价交易，那不是真的爱。
　　And true love is loving the other person as they are. You don＂t need the other person to become what we want, we just accept him completely. If you want to change the other person, it＂s just to satisfy your fantasies about love. To really love someone is whether the other person loves you or not, no matter who he is with, you will love him in your heart, his happiness is your happiness, even if his happiness is not because of you, this is true Love, Not to satisfy your love. How many people can do it? Can you love him without asking for possession or return? If not, you don＂t really love him, you just want to exchange love with him, making the equivalent of love, that is not true love.
　　我明白这点，是因为我在大学的时候，遇到我一个大学的学长，他毕业以后工作很多年，并且在事业上取得成功，成为一名很有社会责任感和爱的银行行长。我那时候听完他的成长励志报告会以后，会后我们取得了联系，他比我大十三岁，而后在彼此相处交流中，我发现自己爱上了这个学长。
　　I understand this because when I was in college, I met a senior student of my university. He worked for many years after graduation and achieved success in his career. He became a bank president with social responsibility and love. At that time, after I listened to his growth inspirational report, we got in touch after the meeting. He was 13 years older than me, and then in the communication with each other, I found that I fell in love with this senior.
　　他给母校成立助学基金会，我那时候心里觉得我以后未来的自己也应该和他一样的，他经常鼓励我未来一定会成为一个对社会有所贡献的人，每次在我困难的时候都会给我好的建议和意见，他教会我好多，虽然我知道我们永远无法在一起，但是这不不影响我爱他，他四十出头，前几年脑癌去世了，我特别难过，所以当我遇到你的时候，你和我说自己妻子去世，你特别痛苦无法走出来时，这种状态和我当年失去师兄应该是同样的感受和无助。这也是我们两个人彼此有了更多共情和理解，我认识师兄今年已经过去十年了，我内心依然爱这样一个灵魂，其实你和他一定程度上有点像。
　　He set up a student aid foundation for his alma mater. At that time, I felt that my future self should be the same as him. He often encouraged me to become a person who contributes to society in the future, every time I was in difficulty. He will give me good suggestions and opinions. He taught me a lot. Although I know that we will never be together, this does not affect my love for him. He was in his early forties and died of brain cancer a few years ago. I was very sad, so When i met you, When you told me that your wife had passed away, and you were too painful to get out, this state should have the same feelings and helplessness as when I lost my brother. This is also the reason that the two of us have more empathy and understanding with each other. Ten years have passed since I have known brother this year. I still love such a soul in my heart. In fact, you and him are a bit like him to a certain extent.
　　柯林斯说：亲爱的海伦，我们两个人是如此的相似，或许命中注定让我们彼此遇见对方，我好开心能够在我们各自失去自己心爱之人以后，还会遇到彼此懂得的人，这样命运与共的人真的是少之又少，我会好好珍惜你，因为我们彼此的遇见存在着一种命运的安排和纽带，我相信我们彼此遇见都是上帝的安排，命中注定我爱你。
　　Collins said: Dear Helen, the two of us are so similar. Maybe we are destined to meet each other. I am so happy to be able to meet people who know each other after we each lose our beloved one, so that we share fate. There are really few people here, and I will cherish you, because there is a destiny arrangement and bond when we meet each other. I believe that when we meet each other, we are all arranged by God, and I am destined to love you.
　　海伦说：我很喜欢风的感觉，它总是忽冷忽热，若即若离，后来我慢慢的明白，有些人只适合相遇，不适合拥有，人生最大的遗憾莫过于，你遇到了一个最特别的人，却又明白永远不能在一起，到最后才明白，最让人痛苦的，不是得不到，而是舍不得。人生之路风雨兼程，你陪我一程，我念你一生，往后余生，爱或不爱，你一直都住在我心里，从未离开过，亲爱的柯林斯，我们彼此遇见，你也是早已在我心里。
　　Helen said: I like the feeling of the wind very much. It is always hot and cold. It stays away. Later, I gradually understand that some people are only suitable for meeting, not suitable for owning. The biggest regret in life is that you meet the most special one. People who know that they can never be together, and finally understand that the most painful thing is not not getting it, but reluctance. The road of life is up and down, you accompany me for a journey, I miss you for the rest of your life, love or not love, You have always lived in my heart and never left, dear Collins, we met each other, and you were already in my heart.
　　柯林斯说：亲爱的海伦，相信我，我不会离开你，也唯有你能够让我留在你的生命中，我爱你，你是我现在生命中最重要的人，也是我生命的唯一，我为此特别感恩上帝让我们彼此遇见对方！
　　Collins said: Dear Helen, believe me, I will not leave you, and only you can let me stay in your life, I love you, you are the most important person in my life now, but also the only one in my life, I am especially grateful that God let us meet each other!
　　海伦说：柯林斯，我今晚好难过，我好担心自己会意外怀孕，我太恐惧了，我有两个女儿，但是我们当地这个村子里大部分家庭必须要有一个男孩，所以很多人都为了生一个男孩而从而生了五六个女孩的特别多，而我婆家和我老公也是传统观念特别深，他们平时不怎么敢和我有正面冲突，但是他竟然今晚趁我不注意导致避孕措施失败，他把我对他仅有的一丝的信任给破坏了，我再也不想让他碰我。
　　Helen said: Collins, I am very sad tonight, I am very worried about my unexpected pregnancy, I am too afraid, I have two daughters, but most families in our local village must have a boy, so many people have five or six girls in order to have a boy, and my in-laws and my husband are also very traditional. They usually don＂t dare to confront me directly, but tonight he failed to prevent birth control when I was not looking, and he destroyed what little trust I had in him, and I never wanted him to touch me again.
　　我生头胎难产，胎盘早剥，很危险，那时候高血压，浮肿到体重到189斤，我整个身体感觉骨头都要断裂，就好比大卡车碾压过去一样，浑身冷汗湿透，眼前一片漆黑，我永远都不会忘记这种身体剧痛，但是家人他们为了我可以早点再生二胎，不怎么愿意让我剖腹产，痛了一天一夜，我觉得自己快死了，后面医生做了手术，他们并不愿意在手术同意书上签字，麻醉师因此和我老公还吵了几句，医生进来手术室还和其他医生说，这女人老公坐外面手机玩斗地主特别镇定自若，叫过来签字还说医院要挣钱非得给自己老婆剖腹产，我在麻醉师打了全麻以后，还和麻醉师大吵一架，我当时情绪失控了，还不相信医生说的，后面手术顺利，生了女儿，我觉得剖腹产也是很人性化的。
　　I gave birth to a first child dystocia, placental abruption, very dangerous, at that time high blood pressure, edema to weight to 189 kg, my whole body feel bones are going to break, just like a truck crushing the past, all wet with cold sweat, dark eyes, I will never forget this physical pain, but my family for me to be able to have a second child earlier, not very willing to let me. After a day and a night of pain, I felt that I was dying. Later, the doctors had an operation, and they were not willing to sign the consent form for the operation.Anesthesiologist therefore and my husband also quarreled a few words, the doctor came into the operating room and other doctors said, this woman＂s husband sat outside the cell phone to play landlords particularly calm, called over to sign also said that the hospital to make money must give his wife caesarean section, I played in the anesthesiologist after general anesthesia, and anesthesiologist had a big fight, I was out of control, and did not believe what the doctor said. After the operation went smoothly, I gave birth to a daughter. I think the caesarean section is also very humane.
　　后面孩子出生，他没有出去工作，我经济压力很大，半夜给孩子喂奶还要手机工作写文案，孩子哭了他嫌弃孩子影响他休息，后面我好不容易努力到自己做的事可以挣不多钱维持生活，后面隔了两年，意外有了二胎，那时候我整个人压力很大，然后孩子仿佛感觉到自己的妈妈并不需要他，后面三个月先兆流产大出血在家里差点要了我的命，在深山里，大雪天没办法及时送医院，只能在家活活的等着孩子流产下来，还有后面的三胎我无法忘记我在妇产科祈求给我医生手术，我无法忍受身体的剧痛折磨，不过还好小女儿在医生要手术那时候出生了，但是我实在太痛苦，其他同病房的产妇被我吓的接着做了我手术。
　　After the child was born, he did not go out to work. I was under great financial pressure. I needed to breastfeed the child in the middle of the night and write a copy on my mobile phone. The child cried and he disliked the child for affecting his rest. Later, I worked hard until I could not earn much from what I did. Money supports my life. After two years, I accidentally had a second child. At that time, I was under a lot of pressure. Then the child felt that his mother didn’t need him. In the next three months, he almost had a threatened abortion and hemorrhage at home. my life, In the deep mountains, there was no way to go to the hospital in time on a snowy day. I had to live at home and wait for the child’s miscarriage. There were also three subsequent children. I couldn’t forget that I prayed to my doctor for surgery in the obstetrics and gynecology department. I couldn’t bear the severe physical pain. Torture, but fortunately, the youngest daughter was born when the doctor was about to operate, but I was too painful, and the other women in the same ward were scared and went on to perform my operation.
　　那晚上整个妇产科都是我惨叫，一个家属是大学生等我生下来被送入普通病房以后，她说姐姐我看到你太痛苦了，那女孩被我吓哭了，还有一个产妇被我吓得直接做剖腹产手术，然后第二天整个医院都以为妇产科出事，我为此特别抱歉，但是关于生孩子，已经在我心里有很创伤和产后抑郁，但是我家人他们觉得太正常，那个女人不生孩子了，现在还各种套路让我生，我今晚太难过了，柯林斯对我来说，我也有很难的时候，我不想再生孩子，我想好好活着，有时候都觉得好难，尤其被家人伤害和不理解的时候，我内心无比痛苦和难过！
　　That night, the whole obstetrics and gynecology department was full of me screaming. A family member was a college student. After I was born and sent to the general ward, she said, ＂Sister, I see you are too painful.＂ The girl was scared to cry by me, and a puerpera was scared to do a caesarean section directly by me. Then the next day, the whole hospital thought that there was an accident in the obstetrics and gynecology department. I am very sorry for this. But about giving birth to a child. Already in my heart there is a lot of trauma and postpartum depression, but my family they feel too normal, that woman does not have children, now also a variety of routines let me give birth, I am too sad tonight, Collins for me, I also have a very difficult time, I do not want to have children, I want to live well, sometimes feel very difficult, especially when hurt by family members and do not understand. My heart is extremely painful and sad!
　　柯林斯说：早安，宝贝，早晨醒来看到你半夜的信息，我真后悔自己手机关机了，没及时回复你，我知道你昨晚发生这样的意外让你一定非常的难过，我猛然不知道我应该说什么来安慰你好，我能够感受到你内心所有的痛苦，悲伤以及愤怒，我的海伦，你让我好心疼，看着你说的一切，让我瞬间有种心碎的感觉，在我心里如此重要的人，我舍不得让你忍受生活如此的折磨，宝贝，我有种等不及想要带你离开哪里，给你一个更好的生活，你值得拥有更好的人生。
　　Collins said: Good morning, baby, I woke up in the morning and saw your message in the middle of the night. I really regret that my phone was turned off and I didn’t reply to you in time. I know that you had such an accident last night and you must be very sad. Knowing what I should say to comfort you, I can feel all the pain, sadness and anger in your heart, my Helen, you make me feel so distressed, watching everything you say makes me feel heartbroken instantly , Such an important person in my heart, I can＂t bear to let you endure such torture in life, baby, I can＂t wait to take you away, give you a better life, you deserve a better life.
　　海伦说：我觉得婚姻生活中，起码应该尊重我的意愿，在我读者里，有个读者叫张宇，他是一个人一家企业老板，四十多岁，他们对我很好，他让我离婚和他去欧洲那边生活，把一个孩子留给公婆，一个带走，不要待在这么贫穷的地方，他很喜欢我平时写的一些东西，但是我并不喜欢这个人，其实这样类似的人我挺对，虽然很多人不是我喜欢的，但是起码让我老公可以看到，即使他可以看不到我付出和价值，但是还存在很多人看到，每次我老公看到其他人对我很好的时候，他也会担心，会对我态度好很多，但是后面又开始变成老样子。
　　Helen said: I think at least my wishes should be respected in married life. Among my readers, there is a reader named Zhang Yu. He is the owner of a company and a company in his forties. They treat me very well. He lets me Divorced and he went to live in Europe, leaving a child with his parents-in-law and taking one away. Don’t stay in such a poor place. He likes some things I usually write, but I don’t like this person. In fact, it’s similar. I am right,
　　Although many people are not what I like, at least my husband can see it. Even if he can’t see my contribution and value, there are still many people who see it. Every time my husband sees other people treat me well , He would also be worried and would treat me much better, but then he started to look the same again.
　　柯林斯说：宝贝我想说的是，你是特别棒的女孩，是个很有价值和天赋异禀，并且很有灵性，很多人喜欢你，那是你自己的魅力所在，你身上就有女主的光环，我不由自主会很想保护你，我看到你哭，我即使无法哄你笑，但是我也愿意抱着你陪你哭，你要知道，你现在拥有我，我很爱你，我不允许任何人伤害你明白吗？
　　Collins said: Baby, what I want to say is that you are a great girl, a very valuable and talented girl, and very spiritual. Many people like you. That is your own charm. You have a heroine. I can’t help but want to protect you. I see you crying. Even if I can’t make you laugh, I’m willing to hold you and cry with you. You know, you own me now, I love you very much. Don＂t allow anyone to hurt you understand?
　　海伦说：在我听到你和我这么说的时候，我内心的伤仿佛此刻被你治愈了，亲爱的柯林斯，你真是我难过时候的一颗糖，让我苦的生活有了一点甜味，我此刻觉得自己被保护和被在乎，你竟然给我很大安全感，我想说，你真的把我哄笑了，我真没事了，我这种人生性乐观，稍微有点阳光，我便觉得雨过天晴，谢谢你，柯林斯，即使我们此刻相隔万里，我觉得彼此的心紧紧靠在一起，但是我老公睡我身边，但是我觉得我们彼此生活在两个世界里，我对他是如此陌生，我无法抵达他心灵，正如他也无法抵达我内心一样！我们面对彼此却是无话可说，而我面对柯林斯却是无话不谈。
　　Helen said: When I heard you say this to me, my inner hurt seemed to be healed by you at this moment, dear Collins, you are really a candy when I was sad, and my bitter life has a little sweetness. At this moment, I feel that I am protected and cared about. You actually gave me a great sense of security. I want to say, you really made me laugh. I＂m really fine. I am optimistic by nature and a little bit sunny. I feel the rain has passed and the weather has cleared, thank you, Collins, Even though we are thousands of miles apart at the moment, I feel each other’s hearts are close together, but my husband sleeps beside me, but I feel that we live in two worlds with each other, I am so strange to him, I cannot reach his heart, just like He can＂t reach my heart the same! We have nothing to say when facing each other, but I have nothing to say when facing Collins.
　　柯林斯说：我很清楚，你是别人的妻子，但是这不影响我爱你，我只希望我心爱的人过得好，我会变得执着，是因为我很清楚，我自己是多么的爱你，我会为自己心爱之人努力，我好不容易遇到你，我要好好守护你，为所爱之人做任何事，我都觉得自己很幸福，如果我真的想和一个人在一起，我必须为她而努力前行，我不知道你怎么想亲爱的海伦，但我不会轻易放弃，我们彼此都经历过人生的坎坷，我将继续坚守对我来说最重要的东西。
　　Collins said: I am very clear, you are someone else＂s wife, but this does not affect my love you, I only hope that my beloved person has a good life, I will become persistent, because I am very clear, how much I love you, I will work hard for my beloved person, I finally met you, I want to take good care of you, for the loved one to do anything, I feel very happy. If I really want to be with someone, I have to work hard for her. I don＂t know about you, dear Helen, but I won＂t give up easily. We＂ve both been through a lot in our lives, and I＂m going to stick with what＂s most important to me.
　　海伦说：我对你就如此重要吗？如果你一辈子都不可能和我在一起，你会后悔？
　　Helen said, ＂Am I that important to you?＂? If you can＂t be with me all your life, will you regret it?
　　柯林斯：我不会，在没遇到你以前，我人生都觉得是黑暗的，但是遇到你就和一束光芒一样，你让我死去的心活了起来，哪怕我们不会在一起，但是我和你能够这么说话我就觉得自己很幸福，我喜欢你的善良，你是特别智慧的女孩，你带给我生命很多新的改变。
　　Collins: I won’t. Before I met you, I felt dark in my life, but meeting you was like a ray of light. You made my dead heart come alive, even if we wouldn’t be together. I feel very happy when I can talk to you like this. I like your kindness. You are a very wise girl. You have brought many new changes to my life.
　　海伦说：不管我生命中遇到什么样子的人，我都会善待他人，因为这样我内心深处感受到的是爱的流动，是宽容和理解，这让我很喜欢自己，他人伤害我时候，我虽然很难过，但是我会事后解决问题，原谅他人，幸福也是计较的少，因为不管任何时候，我希望自己成为一个更好的人，一个人的成长就是把生活中逆缘转念变成顺境的过程，这个过程才是通往更好自己的必经之路，所以我对出现在我生命中的一切心存感恩！
　　Helen said: No matter what kind of person I meet in my life, I will treat others well, because in this way, what I feel deep in my heart is the flow of love, tolerance and understanding, which makes me like myself very much. When others hurt me, Although I am sad, but I will solve the problem afterwards, forgive others, happiness is also less concerned, because at any time, I want to become a better person, a person＂s growth is to turn the bad luck in life into good times the process of, This process is the only way to a better self, so I am grateful for everything that appears in my life!