爱情的救赎喜欢一个人会渴望了解对方

　　柯林斯说：我希望你的早晨向你的笑容一样的灿烂，你今天都好吗？海伦，希望你度过一个美好的夜晚，我刚从体育馆回来，准备去工作了，你今天有什么打算吗？你今天在家吗？
　　Collins said, ＂I hope your morning is as bright as your smile. How are you today?＂? Helen, I hope you have a good evening. I＂ve just come back from the gym and I＂m going to work. Do you have any plans today? Are you at home today?
　　海伦说：早安，柯林斯，我一切都很好，我在整理今天的文案策划，顺便给电台播两期节目，我每天的日常都差不多，我基本每天都是在家照顾孩子做一些自己喜欢的事，帮家人干一些家务活。你还好吧！我用英文给你发信息，你应该看起来比中文容易了很多吧。
　　Helen said: Good morning, Collins, everything is fine. I＂m organizing today＂s copywriting plan. By the way, I broadcast two programs on the radio. My daily routine is similar. I basically take care of my children at home and do some things I like every day. , Help the family with some work. are you OK! I use English, you should look a lot easier than Chinese.
　　柯林斯说：我中文不好，用英文好多了，方便经常跟你说话，中文对我确实有点难的，我用英文你能够看明白我表达的意思吗？
　　Collins said: ＂My Chinese is not good, much better in English, often convenient to talk to you, Chinese is really a little difficult for me, I use English you can understand what I mean?＂?
　　海伦说：微信翻译基本准确，我能够看明白你和我表达意思，我平时和其他国家的网友说话也是用英文，只是不会每天说而已，都是很零散偶尔用一下，我跟你以后应该交流多，或许久而久之我也会习惯实用英文，这样或许是一个很好的办法帮我学习英文。
　　Helen said: WeChat translation is basically accurate. I can see what you mean to me. I usually talk to netizens in other countries in English, but I don’t say it every day. It’s very scattered and occasionally used. I should talk to you later. If I communicate a lot, maybe I will get used to practical English over time. This may be a good way to help me learn English.
　　海伦说：我发现我们之间有很多相似的思想和感受，我在你身上能够感觉到一种莫名的熟悉感，仿佛似曾相识，哪怕我们才认识不久，但是会自然而然想了解你，想听你说话，这种感觉在其他读者哪里是不存在的，仿佛你身上有一种看不到的引力在吸引我靠近你，这种感觉在其他任何一个人身上不曾出现过，哪怕我们距离很远甚至跨越国界，但是仿佛觉得你距离我心很近。
　　Helen said: I found that there are many similar thoughts and feelings between us. I can feel an inexplicable sense of familiarity in you, as if we have known each other before. Even if we have only known each other not long ago, I will naturally want to know you and want to hear you. , This feeling does not exist in other readers, as if there is an invisible gravitation in you attracting me to approach you. This feeling has never appeared in any other person, even if we are far away or even across national borders. But it seems that you are very close to my heart.
　　柯林斯说：亲爱的海伦，你心里理想男人的特质是什么？
　　Collins said, ＂Dear Helen, what qualities do you have in mind in an ideal man?＂?
　　海伦说：我对理想男人的特质基本来自影视作品，武侠剧里的大侠，从小到大很喜欢武侠剧里的大侠和韩剧里温柔的超能霸道总裁，他们身上特质就是我小时候对理想男人的定义，武侠剧里大侠的侠肝义胆，忠孝仁义，小时候很喜欢武侠剧里英雄救美，那个画面总是我认为爱情最美样子。
　　Helen said: My characteristics for an ideal man basically come from film and television works. The heroes in martial arts dramas, from childhood to maturity, love the heroes in martial arts dramas and the gentle super-dominant presidents in Korean dramas. Their characteristics are my ideals when I was young. The definition of a man, the heroes in martial arts dramas are brave and courageous, loyal, filial, and righteous. When I was young, I liked the heroes in martial arts dramas to save the beauty. I always think that love is the most beautiful scene.
　　不过现实里哪有什么完美的男人，所以我有空看看自己喜欢的剧，我内心也很欢喜，我很挺喜欢韩剧，尤其是李钟硕和李敏镐出演的影视作品，他们两个演出来的男主就是我心里理想的样子，我不得不说，你和二硕有点像，不仅发型气质都有那么一点相似，这或许也是我想了解你的一个很大原因。
　　But there are no perfect men in reality, so I have time to watch my favorite dramas. I am also very happy in my heart. I like Korean dramas very much, especially the film and television works starred by Lee Jong Suk and Lee Min Ho. The two men who performed The Lord is the ideal look in my heart. I have to say that you are a bit like Ershuo, and not only the hairstyle and temperament are so similar, this may be a big reason why I want to know you.
　　应该说这些异性长相阳光，看起来很干净，给人感觉很舒服，并且很有爱，很温柔，好学积极乐观，热爱生活，有认知好奇心，对生命很有热情，真诚善良，很有想象力，有梦想和勇气以及很好沟通的能力和领导力，这些气质应该算是我内心理想型男人的一个大概特质。
　　It should be said that these opposite sexes look sunny, look clean, feel very comfortable, and very loving, very gentle, studious, positive and optimistic, love life, have cognitive curiosity, are passionate about life, sincere, kind, and very Imagination, dreams and courage, and the ability to communicate well and leadership. These qualities should be considered as a general trait of the ideal man in my heart.
　　其实这也是我要求自己努力做到的，换句话说，我其实很喜欢和我一个类型的人，这样精神上有很多共鸣，能够彼此懂得，喜欢穿西服很帅，穿休闲风有点可爱，穿运动装很有活力，总之我内心幻想出来虚拟爱人现实里还真没发现，不过也正常，那里存在完美的人，这种完美男人就是放在影视剧里让观众崇拜的，所有我有空很喜欢看部剧，我会觉得很开心的。
　　In fact, this is what I ask myself to strive to do, in other words, I actually like and I a type of person, so that the spirit has a lot of resonance, can understand each other, like to wear a suit is very handsome, wear casual wind a little cute, wear sportswear is very energetic, in short, my inner fantasy out of the virtual lover in reality is really not found, but also normal, where there is a perfect person. This kind of perfect man is put in the movie and TV drama to let the audience worship, so I like to watch a drama when I am free, I will feel very happy.
　　柯林斯说：你相信异地恋吗？如果你遇到了自己的灵魂伴侣，你是否愿意在海洋和微风里重新开始分享爱呢？
　　Collins said: Do you believe in long-distance relationships? If you met your soul mate, would you like to share your love again in the ocean and the breeze?
　　海伦说：我相信异地恋，其实爱情是两个人精神和灵魂的契合，如果相爱哪怕不在身边也觉得思念很美好，距离也会产生美感，如果心灵没有契合，哪怕是枕边人也无话可说，爱情很多时候形散而神聚，我爱你，而你是自由的，但是彼此谁也离不开谁，互为彼此的生命而存在，这是我对爱情的理解，爱其实是相爱者彼此灵魂的共舞和对白，如果此生能够有幸遇到这样一个如同彩虹一样的人，爱也是生命中特别重要而美好的事，这样的人生也是幸福圆满的。
　　Helen said: I believe in long-distance love. In fact, love is the harmony between the spirit and soul of two people. If you are in love, even if you are not around, you will think that the miss is very beautiful, and the distance will also create a sense of beauty. If the soul does not fit, even the person next to the pillow has nothing to do. Say, love is often scattered and gathered together, I love you, and you are free, but no one can do without each other, each other exists for each other’s lives, this is my understanding of love, love is actually loving each other The dance and dialogue between the souls of each other,
　　If this life can be fortunate to meet such a person like a rainbow, love is also a particularly important and beautiful thing in life, and such a life is also happy and complete.
　　不过很少有人能够有这样幸运能够遇见这样一个人，所以我经常和自己说，遇不到的时候，自己就扮演这样一个人，所以我是我自己的伴侣，我懂得如何更好的爱自己，所以我觉得自己都是雌雄同体的，我很懂得自我关怀和自我聆听自己的内心感受，爱往往是伴随孤独而产生的，一个人多么孤独，就多么渴望爱，我从小到大内心深处渴望有个人能够读懂我，但是目前为止，只有我自己最懂自己，我算是我自己最好的伴侣，我忠实于自己的内心世界。
　　However, few people are so lucky to meet such a person, so I often tell myself that when I don’t meet them, I play such a person. So I am my own partner and I know how to love myself better. , So I feel that I am an androgynous. I know how to care for myself and listen to my inner feelings. Love is often accompanied by loneliness. How lonely a person is, I long for love. I have longed for it since I was young. Someone can understand me,
　　But so far, only I know myself best, and I can be regarded as my best partner. I am faithful to my inner world.
　　柯林斯说：我很想遇到这样一个人，对我来说，我的灵魂伴侣我想和她在一起生活，她可以和我一起生活，如果她不习惯我的生活环境，我也愿意去她住的地方生活，或者两个人可以去一个新的地方定居也是可以的，我的灵魂伴侣必须和我家人一样感到舒适而幸福，我想找到这样一个人，而后好好爱她。
　　Collins said: I really want to meet such a person, for me, my soul mate I want to live with her, she can live with me, if she is not used to my living environment, I am willing to go to her It’s okay for two people to live in a place to live, or two people can go to a new place to settle. My soul mate must feel as comfortable and happy as my family. I want to find such a person and love her.
　　海伦说：其实在哪里生活不那么重要，重要的是和谁在一起生活，一个人心无栖息之地，到哪里都是流浪罢了，如果能够找到这样一个人，内心回笃定心安，能够遇到这样的伴侣，在哪里生活都是幸福的，我希望柯林斯此生能够遇到这样一个人相伴余生，我内心希望你得到幸福，这样我会觉得很开心，你的人生已经经历了太多不幸了，我希望你能够遇到这样一个人，你们彼此相爱，幸福的度过余生，这也是我心之所愿。
　　Helen said: Actually, where to live is not so important. The important thing is who you live with. If you have no place to live in, you are wandering wherever you go. If you can find such a person, you will feel at ease and be able to meet this. Your partner is happy wherever you live. I hope Collins can meet such a person in this life to accompany you for the rest of my life. In my heart, I hope you will be happy, so that I will feel very happy. Your life has gone through too much misfortune.I hope you can meet such a person. You love each other and spend the rest of your life happily. This is what I want.
　　柯林斯说：亲爱的海伦，我感觉自己跟你聊天时内心好开心，我很久没有这样的感觉，我发现我跟你说话的时候我在不自觉的笑，你的氛围是如此的美好和温暖。
　　Collins said: Dear Helen, I feel so happy when I chat with you. I haven＂t felt this way for a long time. I found that I was smiling unconsciously when I talked to you. Your atmosphere is so beautiful and warm.
　　海伦说：如果你觉得和我说话让你很开心的话，你有时间经常可以找我说话，你开心我也很开心。
　　Helen said, ＂If you think it makes you happy to talk to me, you can always talk to me when you have time.＂.
　　柯林斯说：我觉得你是一个特别真诚而善良的女子，准备安顿和用心去爱自己生命中那个重要的男人，你值得拥有快乐，也值得和让你快乐的人在一起。
　　Collins said: I think you are a particularly sincere and kind woman, ready to settle down and love the important man in your life with your heart. You deserve happiness, and you deserve to be with someone who makes you happy.
　　海伦说：我基本来说还算有个和谐温暖的家，相对来说也算拥有素而简的幸福，不过大部分一个女人的幸福感和安全感需要自个儿成全，我自己本来就是一个幸福的人，我是一个在思想情感经济上相对比较独立的女性，即使在婚姻里，我也有很强的单身力。
　　Helen said: ＂I basically have a harmonious and warm home, relatively speaking, I also have the happiness of simplicity, but most of a woman＂s happiness and security need to be fulfilled by herself. I am a happy person. I am a relatively independent woman in thought, emotion and economy. Even in marriage, I also have a strong single ability.＂.
　　我有自己热爱的事，也会不断学习精进自我，自我不断的成长和沉淀的过程让我内心特别喜悦，相对来说我拥有让自己快乐的能力，但是也不代表我不存在不开心的时候，只是我调整情绪的能力相对而言比较好，心态比较平和，也不和自己较劲，生活中不怎么计较，自愈能力很好的，你和我说话我会觉得多了一个分享自己内心成长的人，我遇见柯林斯，让我觉得这是我生命中一件很美好的事情。
　　I have my own love, and will continue to learn to improve myself, the process of self-growth and precipitation makes my heart particularly happy, relatively speaking, I have the ability to make myself happy, but it does not mean that I do not exist unhappy time, but my ability to adjust my mood is relatively good, the state of mind is relatively peaceful, and I do not compete with myself. Self-healing ability is very good, you talk to me, I will feel more than one person to share their inner growth, I met Collins, let me feel that this is a very beautiful thing.
　　柯林斯说：如果我给你我的心，你会陪它跳舞吗？我只是问问，我会是一个很好看守你心的人，如果你愿意给我的话？
　　Collins said, ＂If I gave you my heart, would you dance with it?＂? I＂m just Asking. I＂d be a good sport if you＂d give it to me?
　　海伦说：其实你已经在我心里，并且我希望柯林斯永远在我心里，我很想知道关于你成长当中所经历过的一切，如果你愿意，可以告诉我，我很想知道这样一个你在我没遇到之前，你成长中所经历过的点滴，我对此很有兴趣，很想听听关于你的求学，工作等一切跟你有关的事？
　　Helen said: Actually you are already in my heart, and I hope Collins will always be in my heart. I want to know everything you have experienced when you grow up. If you want, you can tell me. I really want to know that you are in me. I have never encountered the bits and pieces that you have experienced when you grow up. I am very interested in them. I would like to hear about your studies, work and everything related to you?
　　柯林斯说：我是一个对生活很有激情的人，并且对未来充满希望，我也是一个特别浪漫的人，我对人生抱有乐观积极的态度，我喜欢真诚善良，不喜欢被欺骗，我喜欢生活过得很有乐趣，如果我带你度过一个很浪漫的夜晚，你会选择去哪里？
　　Collins said: I am a person who is passionate about life and full of hope for the future. I am also a very romantic person. I have an optimistic and positive attitude towards life. I like being sincere and kind. I don’t like being deceived. I like it. Life is very fun. If I took you through a very romantic evening, where would you choose to go?
　　海伦说：从现实角度来说，这是不可能实现的一件事情，因为我已经结婚了，有自己的家庭，我有属于自己的责任，我必须要求自己对我老公保持忠诚，他在婚姻里给我很大自由，但是我并能不滥用这种自由，这是婚姻里最起码的信任和尊重，我不会去要求对方做什么，但是我希望自己能够在婚姻里做到信任和忠诚，这是我对我老公的尊重，也是尊重我自己。
　　Helen said: From a practical point of view, this is an impossible thing, because I am married and have my own family. I have my own responsibilities. I must ask myself to remain loyal to my husband. He is married. Here gives me a lot of freedom, but I can not abuse this freedom. This is the most basic trust and respect in marriage. I will not ask the other party to do anything, but I hope that I can achieve trust and loyalty in the marriage. , This is my respect for my husband, but also respect for myself.
　　柯林斯说：是的，我明白，但是爱情和婚姻是两码事，你虽然结婚了，但是不代表你不可以喜欢上别人，你可以和自己喜欢的人恋爱不是吗？
　　Collins said: Yes, I understand, but love and marriage are two different things. Although you are married, it doesn＂t mean you can＂t fall in love with others. You can fall in love with the one you like, can you?
　　海伦说：爱情和婚姻的一致往往是很美好的，但是未必现实里每个人都能够让两者保持完美一致，我婚姻未曾有恋爱就结婚，还是相亲，觉得两个人从小认识还是小学到初中的同学，两家的大人撮合，合适的时候，适合的人就结婚了。
　　Helen said: The agreement between love and marriage is often very beautiful, but in reality, everyone may not be able to keep the two perfectly consistent. My marriage was never in love before I got married, or blind date. I think two people have known each other since they were still classmates from elementary school to junior high school. , The adults of the two families are brought together, and when the time is right, the right person gets married.
　　我也不知道恋爱是什么感觉，我对我老公感觉很像我和我弟弟那样的亲情，就是家人信任和依赖，但仿佛不存在怦然心动那种强烈感觉，但是他是个很适合过日子的人，情绪稳定，我生活中不爱做的事他刚好可以做，属于性格互补，但是精神上共鸣很少，我们之间沟通都是基于生活中日常琐事，不会存在和我们这样聊天的感觉，我现实里没谈过恋爱就结婚了，说实话，我不知道和一个人恋爱是什么状态。
　　I don＂t know what it feels like to be in love. I feel very much like my husband and my brother＂s affection, that is, family trust and dependence, but it seems that there is no strong feeling of heartbeat. But he is a very suitable person to live with, emotional stability. He can just do what I don＂t like to do in my life. It belongs to complementary personality, but there is little spiritual resonance. The communication between us is based on the daily trifles of life. There will be no feeling of chatting with us like this. I got married without falling in love in reality. To be honest, I don＂t know what state it is to fall in love with a person.
　　他的爱好和我完全不同，我很多喜欢热爱的他也不懂，所以我们除了日常生活以外，很少有太多其他的话题交流，说话很少，但是我内心蛮喜欢随时有个人能够陪我说话，和我分享，但是我不能把我全部的期望建立在从对方身上满足得到，这无疑是比较自私的，毕竟没完美符合我内心的人存在，但是我对他为我所做的事也很感恩。
　　His hobbies are completely different from mine. He doesn’t understand many of the ones I love. Therefore, apart from our daily life, we rarely communicate on many other topics and talk very little. But in my heart, I really like someone to be with me at any time. Speak and share with me, but I can’t base all my expectations on satisfaction from the other person. This is undoubtedly selfish. After all, there is no person who fits my heart perfectly, but I am also very concerned about what he has done for me. Very grateful.
　　柯林斯说：你最大的恐惧是什么？
　　Collins said: What is your greatest fear?
　　海伦说：我好像没什么可以恐惧的，你呢，有什么事让你到恐惧吗？
　　Helen said, ＂I don＂t seem to have anything to be afraid of. What about you? Are you afraid of anything?＂?
　　柯林斯说：我最大的恐惧是怕我最爱的人离开我，我怕失去心爱之人，我不想失去任何一个和我很亲近的人。
　　Collins said: ＂My greatest fear is that the people I love most leave me, I am afraid of losing loved ones, I do not want to lose any one and I am very close to people.＂.
　　海伦说：我理解你，因为你失去自己的爱人和父母，我懂你内心深处痛苦，也特别心疼你的遭遇，这让我也很难过，但是每个人的一生都会面对离别和失去，只有失去才会让我们更懂得珍惜眼前人和自己所拥有一切，所以在一起的时候，好好说话，好好善待彼此，才不辜负遇见。
　　Helen said: I understand you, because you have lost your lover and parents. I understand the deep pain in your heart, and I am especially distressed by your experience. This makes me sad, but everyone will face parting and loss in their lives. Only when we lose will we know how to cherish everything we have in front of us, so when we are together, we should talk and treat each other well, so as to live up to the encounter.
　　但是人终其一生陪伴自己走到人生终点的伴侣唯有自己而已，每个出现在我们生命中的人也只能在某个时间段陪我们一程而已，缘分尽了自然会离开，我以前跟你一样，对此有很深恐惧。
　　But the partner who accompanies oneself to the end of life is only oneself. Everyone who appears in our lives can only accompany us for a certain period of time. When fate is exhausted, he will naturally leave. I used to Like you, there is a deep fear of this.
　　直到从小养我长大的爷爷去世以后，我那天哭了很长文章回忆我和爷爷生活的点滴，然后哭累了趴在书桌上睡着了，第二天爷爷葬礼，我并没有过度的悲伤，因为我和爷爷相处的时候，我对爷爷很好，我做了我应该做的，爷爷对我的爱也长存我心，我只觉得爷爷去了另一个天国，而我需要把爷爷这个读书人的精神和品格传承下去就足够了。
　　Until the death of my grandfather who raised me, I cried a long article that day recalling the little things about my life with my grandfather, and then cried and fell asleep on the desk. The next day my grandfather’s funeral, I was not overly sad. , Because when I get along with my grandpa, I treat grandpa very well, and I did what I should do, and grandpa’s love for me will last forever in my heart. I just think grandpa went to another heaven, and I need to treat grandpa this It is enough to pass on the spirit and character of scholars.
　　爷爷虽然去世了，但是爷爷的精神和从小到大对我养育和疼爱永远珍藏我心，我现在婚姻也是当年爷爷去世那天两家人撮合到一起的，其实我现在的婚姻生活和我爷爷奶奶当年婚姻基本一个状态，日子平淡如水，但是也踏实温暖，我对生活没太多奢望，知足常乐而已，至于太多精神快乐，我向自己的内心求取获得罢了。
　　Although my grandfather passed away, the spirit and love of my grandfather who have nurtured me since childhood will always cherish my heart. My current marriage is also brought together by the two families on the day my grandfather passed away. In fact, my current married life is the same as that of my grandparents. Basically, the days are as plain as water, but also practical and warm. I don＂t have too many extravagances in life, just contentment and happiness. As for too much spiritual happiness, I ask for something from my heart.
　　我觉得亲密关系是一种轮回，是从小原生家庭里的一种呈现，我现在公婆基本和我爷爷奶奶当年那时候的生活状态差不多，就是比较普通而简单的日子。
　　I think intimacy is a kind of reincarnation, a manifestation in the original family since I was young. My in-laws are basically the same life as my grandparents back then, they are relatively ordinary and simple days.
　　亲爱的柯林斯，我知道你内心有很大恐惧，但是你内心常常想一下你和自己的妻子父母在一起时一起度过的美好生活，你内心会有爱的力量，会感觉温暖，他们其实是在天国的某个角落守护着你，你这样想内心的恐惧就会少很多的，还有一点就是，只要你需要我，我都会陪你说话，我不会离开你，你不会失去我，我说话算数，除非你那天自己不想和我说了，我希望我的存在能够让你内心不那么感到恐惧和孤独，我希望柯林斯幸福快乐的生活在这个世界里。
　　Unless you don＂t want to tell me that day, I hope that my existence can make you feel less fearful and lonely in your heart. I hope Collins will live happily in this world.
　　柯林斯说：生命中能够遇到你，我觉得好幸运，谢谢你和我分享这么多，我人生猛然觉得温暖很多，跟你说话时间飞快，我忘了看时间了，已经十一点了，你是不是该休息了，好梦我亲爱的海伦，晚安！
　　Collins said: I feel so lucky to have met you in my life. Thank you for sharing so much with me. My life suddenly feels much warmer. Time flies when I talk to you. I forget to look at the time. It＂s already eleven o＂clock. Should you rest? Sweet dreams, my dear Helen. Good night!
　　海伦说：还真十一点了，你还真没说错，跟你在一起聊天感觉时间好快，是该我休息的时间了，你也早点睡，你明天还要工作，晚安，亲爱的柯林斯！
　　Helen said: It’s really eleven o’clock, you’re really right, I feel like the time is so fast to chat with you, it’s time for me to rest, you go to bed earlier, you have to work tomorrow, good night, dear Collins!