爱情的救赎愿彼此互为生命中的温暖

　　柯林斯说：愿今天能够给你带来幸福和快乐，早安吉祥，亲爱的海伦。
　　＂May this day bring you happiness and joy,＂ said Collins. ＂Good morning and good luck, dear Helen.
　　海伦说：每个早晨都是新的希望，也愿您今天度过美好的一天。
　　Helen said, ＂Every morning is a new hope, and may you have a wonderful day today.＂.
　　柯林斯说：亲爱的海伦你今天还好吗，打算忙些什么？
　　Collins said, Dear Helen, how are you today? What are you going to do?
　　海伦说：我很好，谢谢你关心，我每天生活节奏都差不多，早晨五点多差不多醒来看会书学习，听个轻音乐码字，这时候孩子睡觉，习惯一个人独处做点自己喜欢的事，白天抽空给自己电台播读一些节目，然后收拾整理自己的家，帮家人做一些事，大概每天生活都是比较自由闲适，我可以算得上是一个很快乐的家庭主妇。
　　最开心有很自由零碎时间学习自己感兴趣的领域，我很喜欢这种随性而为的家庭生活，平时有一些读者也会给我发一些私信，我会抽空回复一部分，有时候也会有一些客户和代理选购一些东西，有时候还不定期接一些广告和业务，再就是你每天都会做图文音频视频，这些基本算是我日常工作，每天听书学习写作，每天运动半小时，陪伴孩子学习，这些基本都算我日常生活，每天正常习惯做的事。
　　Helen said: I’m fine, thank you for your concern. I live at the same pace every day. I woke up at about 5 o’clock in the morning to read a book and study, listen to a light music code. At this time, the child sleeps and is used to doing something that he likes alone. I take time out during the day to read some programs on my radio, then tidy up my home, and help my family with some things. Probably every day is a relatively free and leisurely life. I can be regarded as a very happy housewife.
　　I am happiest to have a lot of free and fragmentary time to study the field I am interested in. I really like this casual family life. Usually, some readers will send me some private messages. I will take the time to reply part of it, and sometimes Some customers and agents buy some things, and sometimes they receive some advertisements and business from time to time. That is, you do graphics, text, audio and video every day. These are basically my daily work, listening to books and writing, and exercising for half an hour every day.
　　Accompanying my children to study, these are basically my daily routines and my normal daily routine.
　　海伦说：你呢今天还好吗？有新的打算吗，你正常都忙一些什么？
　　Helen: What about you? Do you have any new plans today? What are you usually busy with?
　　柯林斯说：我今天很好，打算去办公室。
　　Collins said, I＂m fine today. I＂m going to the office.
　　海伦说：希望你工作愉快！
　　Helen said, ＂I hope you enjoy your work.＂
　　柯林斯说：当我失业时，我会冒险学习很多新的事物，我喜欢周末外出，我没有很多朋友，但我通常是一个比较快乐的人。
　　＂When I＂m unemployed, I take risks and learn a lot of new things,＂ Collins said. ＂I like to go out on weekends. I don＂t have a lot of friends, but I＂m usually a happier person.
　　海伦说：其实每个人差不多都经历过不同的失业低谷，但是有个良好的心态去面对就会遇到新机遇不是吗，通常生活不如意事十之八九，常想一二就是快乐之人，能够保持学习的好奇心是可以更好的解决生活中出现的问题和困难，这点我们倒是一样，其实快乐本就是一种能力，和生活处境并没多大关系，学会和自己所处环境保持一定距离，能够更为从容冷静的面对生活里遇到的各种问题。
　　Helen said: In fact, almost everyone has experienced different unemployment troughs, but if you have a good attitude to face it, you will encounter new opportunities, right? Usually life is unsatisfactory, and I often think that one or two is a happy person. Being able to maintain the curiosity of learning can better solve the problems and difficulties in life. This is the same for us. In fact, happiness is a kind of ability, and it has nothing to do with life situations. Learn to keep up with your own environment A certain distance,Be able to face various problems in life more calmly and calmly.
　　柯林斯说：你多久出去一次，我是说你多久参加一次派对，你是喜欢参加派对的女人吗？
　　Collins said: How often do you go out, I mean how often do you go to parties, are you a woman who likes to go to parties?
　　海伦说：我不怎么喜欢这样的社交派对，我喜欢和家人相处在一起，要么就是自己独处做自己喜欢的事，有投缘的朋友一起小坐我也挺开心的，和朋友聊天，也是很愉悦的事，并且可以很好的交流学习，三人行必有我师，我喜欢比较有思想的朋友，但是不热衷于参加类似的派对这样的，从现实生活来说，我也没这种环境。
　　Helen said: ＂I don＂t like this kind of social party, I like to get together with my family, or do what I like alone, I am also very happy to sit with congenial friends, chat with friends, is also a very pleasant thing, and can be a good exchange and learning, three people must have my teacher, I like more thoughtful friends.＂ But I＂m not crazy about going to parties like that, and in real life, I don＂t have that kind of environment.
　　柯林斯说：我通常一个人居住，大多数时间里我生活在海上，所以似乎没什么关系，但是我现在觉得很孤独。
　　Collins said: ＂I usually live alone and most of the time I live at sea so it doesn＂t seem to matter but I feel lonely now.
　　海伦说：你家人呢？
　　Helen said, Where is your family?
　　柯林斯说：我没有家，我在德国学习的时候就失去了自己的父母，我刚好是家里的独生子。
　　Collins said: ＂I have no home, I was studying in Germany when I lost their parents, I happen to be the only child in the family.＂.
　　海伦说：原来你是留学生，怎么会有这么糟糕的事发生在你身上，让你失去世上最亲的人，失去自己父母和妻儿，难得你还如此坚强，我竟然隔着屏幕听你说都会觉得好难过，会内心觉得好悲伤，什么原因会让你遭受这一切，对不起啊，我不应该问到一个人最痛苦的事。
　　Helen said: It turns out that you are an overseas student, how could something so bad happen to you, and make you lose the closest person in the world, lose your parents, wives and children, it is rare that you are still so strong, I even listened to you through the screen You will feel so sad, and you will feel so sad in your heart. Why do you suffer from all this? I＂m sorry, I shouldn＂t ask a person the most painful thing.
　　柯林斯说：我真的很伤心，我不想提到这一切，这世界就剩下我一个人孤独活着。
　　Collins said: ＂I am really sad, I do not want to talk about all this, the world left me alone to live.＂.
　　海伦说：你不是一个人，你还有我这个朋友不是吗，我虽然每天都比较忙，我很少有精力回复太多信息，但是我一定会回你信息，我曾经也有觉得世界就我一个人的孤独，即使我曾经也有家人，但是他们从不理解我，所以我长期在孤独中长大，所以我能够体会你此刻的感受。
　　Helen said: You are not alone, do you still have my friend? Although I am busy every day, I rarely have the energy to reply to too many messages, but I will definitely reply to your messages. I once felt that the world was only me. People’s loneliness, even though I used to have family members, they never understood me, so I grew up in loneliness for a long time, so I can understand how you feel at the moment.
　　虽然我们隔着不同国度，但是你愿意和我这个陌生人倾诉，坦然告诉我你的感受和经历，我也很愿意聆听，并且认真回复你，只希望你在这个世界上觉得人间还存在温暖和善意，可以让你觉得不那么孤独和悲伤，这大概是通过网络我唯一能为你做的事。
　　Although we are separated by different countries, but you are willing to talk to me as a stranger, frankly tell me your feelings and experiences, I am also willing to listen, and seriously reply to you, only hope that you feel that there is warmth and goodwill in this world, can let you feel less lonely and sad, this is probably the only thing I can do for you through the network.
　　柯林斯说：当有人让你不高兴的时候，你感觉如何？你会做些什么让自己镇定下来？
　　Collins said: How do you feel when someone upsets you? What would you do to calm yourself down?
　　海伦说：纵使被他人说坏话、被讨厌，也没什么好在意的，因为＂对方如何看待你＂，那是对方的课题。我们自己擅自背负别人的课题，只会让我们自己感到痛苦，我从小到大，经历过谩骂伤害感觉不好的事太多了，但是我并不怎么在意，人越是在意他人目光，越会被这些所伤害。
　　Helen said: Even if others say bad things or be hated, there is nothing to care about, because ＂how does the other side treat you＂ is the other side＂s subject. We take on other people’s tasks without authorization, which will only make us feel painful. Since I was a child, I have experienced too many things that hurt and feel bad, but I don’t care much. The more people care about others’ eyes, the better they will be. Be hurt by these.
　　我在早年面对这一切的时候，我会不开心，然后会把自己不舒服的感受写出来，然后丢垃圾桶里，后面经历多了，我对他人如何看我不那么敏感，没有人有义务对我们好，我们也不可能让所有人满意，我为了让自己活的比较快乐，我对此的处理方式就是记住他人对我的好，忘记那些对我不好的，这样我会好很多。
　　When I faced all this in my early years, I would be unhappy, and then I would write out my uncomfortable feelings, and then throw them in the trash can. After many experiences, I was not so sensitive to how others looked at me. No one had the obligation to be good to us, and we could not satisfy everyone. In order to make myself happy, my way of dealing with this was to remember others. Forget about what＂s bad for me, and I＂ll be better off.
　　其实他人怎么对我们是我们的因果，我们如何对他人是我们的修行，其实我们专注做自己的事的时候，也就把注意力从他人对我们做了什么带给我们的感受里走出来，也就不那么在意了，我就是这么处理的，因为做自己喜欢的事可以让我保持专注安静，可以很快让一个人镇定下来的。
　　In fact, how others treat us is our cause and effect, and how we treat others is our practice. In fact, when we focus on doing our own things, we also turn our attention away from the feelings that others do to us. I don＂t care much anymore. I deal with it this way, because doing what I like can keep me focused and quiet, and it can quickly calm a person.
　　柯林斯说：我尽我最大的努力过好自己的生活，我不会打扰任何人，我在乎我自己的感觉，但是我并不喜欢一个人孤独生活。
　　Collins said: ＂I try my best to live my own life, I will not disturb anyone, I care about my own feelings, but I do not like to live alone.＂
　　海伦说：你和我人生十几年前的自己特别相似，我十几年前的自己也不喜欢一个人生活，但是更恐惧他人靠近我，即使内心很孤独，也不愿意打扰任何人，你说的话是我曾经和自己说的，没想到隔着不同国家竟然有人和我有如此接近的内心感受，这或许也是冥冥之中我们能够聊天的缘分所在，我觉得生命中存在着一种磁场，你可以把我当成你在中国的家人。
　　Helen said: You are very similar to the self I was ten years ago in my life. My self from ten years ago didn’t like living alone, but I was more afraid of others approaching me. Even though I was lonely, I didn’t want to disturb anyone. You What I said was what I said to myself. I didn’t expect someone to feel so close to me in different countries. This may also be where we can chat in the dark. I think there is a magnetic field in life. You can think of me as your family in China.
　　柯林斯说：我很高兴我们认识，特别感恩我们相逢，如果我们在一起生活一定会发生很多神奇美好的事，我好开心遇到有你这样愿意鼓励我的人，我喜欢你，喜欢你的个性和友善，我希望你往后能够成为我的妹妹，如果你愿意的话？你多大？
　　Collins said: I am very happy that we met, and I am especially grateful for our meeting. If we live together, many magical and beautiful things will happen. I am so happy to meet someone like you who is willing to encourage me. I like you and love your personality. And friendly, I hope you can become my sister in the future, if you want? How old are you?
　　海伦说：我88年32岁，很开心我以后多一位家人，你有什么可以和我说，如果你需要找人说话的时候，我应该还算是一个不错听众，我能够听懂一个人内心的感受并对此做出回应，我愿意听你说话，听你和我分享你自己的喜乐。
　　Helen said: I am 32 years old in 88. I am very happy that I will have one more family member in the future. You can tell me if you need to find someone to talk to, I should be a good listener. I can understand a person’s heart. Feel and respond to it.I want to listen to you, to hear you share your own joy with me.
　　柯林斯说：我37岁，我很开心我们能够以后经常像家人一样经常聊天说话，特别开心你愿意做我妹妹。
　　Collins said: I am 37 years old and I am very happy that we can often chat and talk like family in the future. I am very happy that you are willing to be my sister.
　　海伦说：你懂中文，还是用翻译，我看你文字存在一些语句不通，但是我能够明白你表达的意思，以后你经常和我聊天，你慢慢会一些中文，如果你比较喜欢我们中国文化和汉字的话。
　　Helen said: If you understand Chinese, you should still use translation. I think there are some sentences in your text, but I can understand what you mean. You will often chat with me in the future, and you will gradually learn some Chinese. If you like our Chinese culture better And Chinese characters.
　　柯林斯说：我不懂中文，我用软件翻译的，其实微信翻译就很好，你懂英文吗？
　　Collins said: I don＂t understand Chinese. I use software to translate. In fact, WeChat translation is very good. Do you understand English?
　　海伦说：我英文不是太好，一直坚持不了学下去，很喜欢听英文歌曲，读一些英文美文，但是相对来说看中文还是多，也没合适的英文语言环境，学了就会忘，说起来更难，经常也有一些外国朋友，大部分时候微信翻译挺准确的，基本不影响沟通的，你在国外留学应该英文很流利的。
　　Helen said: My English is not very good, has been unable to insist on learning, like to listen to English songs, read some English beautiful articles, but relatively speaking, see Chinese or more, there is no suitable English language environment, learned will forget, it is more difficult to say, often have some foreign friends, most of the time WeChat translation is very accurate, basic does not affect communication. You should be fluent in English when you study abroad.
　　柯林斯说：我德文英文都很好，那我们以后用英文，你也可以很好学英文，语言在交流中学习会变得没那么困难。
　　Collins said: I am good at both German and English. Then we will use English in the future. You can also learn English very well. Language learning in communication will become less difficult.
　　柯林斯说：我好感激有你这样的一个妹妹，我想让你知道，信任，忠诚，尊重是永恒幸福道德准则中的一小部分。
　　Collins said, ＂I am so grateful to have a sister like you, and I want you to know that trust, loyalty, and respect are just a few of the virtues of eternal happiness.＂.
　　海伦说：其实一个人幸福源于一个人内心仁爱和慈悲，一个人内心世界丰盈，不管那个国家，爱，尊重，真诚，分享，友善，宽容永远都是跨越国界建立彼此信任的通行证。
　　Helen said: In fact, a person＂s happiness stems from a person＂s inner love and compassion, a person＂s inner world is abundance, no matter the country, love, respect, sincerity, sharing, friendliness, tolerance will always be the passport to build mutual trust across national boundaries.
　　就如同你能够坦诚告诉我你自己的遭遇，可以有勇气去面对自己的脆弱，这对我来说，也是你对我的信任，我当然会很认真回你我所能感受到你要表达。平时也有很多读者他们也告诉我他们自己烦心事，我其实是很好听众，我明白倾诉也是一种心理疗愈，其实当一个人面对另一个人可以说出自己内心的感受时，这个人内心的创伤也会得到疗愈和缓解，我自己也有这样体验，我和我婆婆很喜欢聊天，我把自己内心深处的事讲出来以后，我会感觉内心特别轻松愉悦，其实人生能够遇到一个愿你听你说话的人是一件很幸福的事，人生其实是需要这样的朋友或者家人，我以后就是你的家人和朋友。
　　Just as you can tell me frankly about your own experience, you can have the courage to face your own vulnerability. For me, this is also your trust in me. Of course, I will be very serious and return to you as much as I can feel you want to express . Usually there are many readers who tell me that they are bothering me. I am actually a very good listener. I understand that talking is also a kind of psychological healing. In fact, when a person can express his inner feelings when facing another person, this person The inner trauma will also be healed and relieved,
　　I have this experience myself. My mother-in-law and I like to chat very much. After I tell my innermost things, I will feel very relaxed and happy inside. In fact, it is a matter of life to meet someone who wants you to listen to you. Very happy thing, life actually needs such friends or family, I will be your family and friends in the future.
　　柯林斯说：有一个像妹妹这样的人，需要很大耐心，这也意味着你需要牺牲到自己的时间和很大精力，首先我们得相信我们自己。
　　＂It takes a lot of patience to have someone like your sister,＂ Collins said. ＂It also means you have to sacrifice a lot of your time and energy.
　　海伦说：其实任何一段关系的信任建立，都源于对他人理解和尊重以及给予关怀和善意，也是一个人内心有这一切建立起来的关系让人生觉得很幸福，我曾经是一个重度抑郁症自杀患者，也接受过心理咨询，后面有幸活下来，被命运阴差阳错的安排到互联网自媒体这个行业今年已是八年有余了，我听过很多读者听友和我讲述自己的故事和心事，我其实听了太多故事，其实这些人也丰富了我的生命，我知道了很多我所不了解的事，他们对我的信任让我很感动，我只要有精力，我都会真诚的回复那些需要我的人，这些人存在也让我有了存在的价值。
　　Helen said: ＂In fact, the establishment of trust in any relationship stems from understanding and respect for others, as well as giving care and goodwill, but also a person＂s heart has all these relationships built up to make life feel very happy, I was a major depression suicide patient, also received psychological counseling, later fortunately survived.＂ By the fate of the wrong arrangement to the Internet from the media industry this year is more than eight years, I have heard a lot of readers and I tell their stories and worries, I actually heard too many stories, in fact, these people also enriched my life, I know a lot of things I do not understand, their trust in me makes me very touched, as long as I have energy. I will sincerely reply to those who need me, and the existence of these people also makes me valuable.
　　当我给予他人温暖和鼓励的时候，我内心深处的爱也会更丰盈，我自己内心深处是喜悦，我觉得这是人生中很有意义的事。我在这个过程中也学习提升自己很多，我其实很喜欢自己现在的人生和生活方式，我觉得一个人的存在对他人的生命给予光明和温暖的话，我觉得这就是我认为的人生意义所在，我对自己这样的人生感到欣喜。
　　When I give warmth and encouragement to others, the love in my heart will also be more abundant, and my heart is joy. I think this is a very meaningful thing in life. I also learned to improve myself a lot in this process. I actually like my current life and lifestyle very much. I think that the existence of a person gives light and warmth to the lives of others. I think this is the meaning of life. I am happy with my life like this.