标题:WhyTextingShouldNotBeUsedinaNewRelationship source:huffingtonpost丨StephanieM 翻译请保留原文链接哦 欲翻译的小伙伴,可评论领稿,并把已完成的译文发在自己的心理圈or个人主页的日志内。请领稿的小伙伴,尽量在一个星期内完成翻译,谢谢!! Disclaimer:Ifyouarenotwillingorwantingtocommittothedevelopmentofahealthyrelationship。。。thispostisnotforyou。 Okay。Ifyouarestillreading,wemostlikelysharethesethingsincommon:Wewanttobeinahealthyrelationshipwithsomeone。Wehavewitnessedthebenefitsofgoodrelationshiporperhapswearemotivatedbyhealthreasonsbecausewehaveheardpeoplewhoareingoodrelationshipslivelonger,happierandhealthylives。 Ssreverseengineerwhatmakesarelationshipagoodone。 LimitedamountsofstressEspeciallyfinancialandhealth,yetinsomecasescoupleswhosurvivethesethingshavethestrongestandbestrelationshipsintown。 UnlimitedamountofsexWell,atleastasmuchasbothpartieswant。 GoodCommunicationTheNo。1reasonwhycouplesdonotsurviveisduetotheirinabilitytocommunicatewitheachother。 Whyisgoodcommunicationsohardtoachieveandorkeep?IWHYwecommunicatenomatterwhatthecircumstancemaybe。Whenthegoalofthecommunicatorisunderstandingforallpartiesinvolved,everybodywins。Whenwecommunicateforattentionorjusttobeheardoverbeingclearthatunderstandingistakingplace。。。thisiswherewegetintotroubleespeciallyinaheatedargument。Ifthegoalisnotunderstandingthenbothpartiesjustenduprepeatingtheirpointsuntilsomeonegivesupoftenresultinginbothpeoplewalkingawayfrustratedandupset。 2015091614424252863858922NoTextDating。jpgWhyistextingabadideainanewrelationship?Nomatterwhatkindofrelationshipitis,thereissomanythingstolearnandexplorewithsomeonenewinthebeginning。Whatkindofsenseofhumordoessomeonehave?Whatmakesapersonhappy,sadandangry?Whatsituationandcircumstancesmakethemwhotheyareorcausethemtoseethingsdifferently?Therearemanysimplediscoveriestomakebuttogetherthosethingsformaverycomplexanduniquepuzzleasnotwopeopleareexactlyalikeintheirthoughts,actionsandexperiences。Weusecommunicationtounravelthemysteriesofeachother。Communicationthatisnotjustwordsbuttonality,facialexpressions,andbodylanguage。 Therearenoamountsofemoticonsthatmakeupforthelackofcommunicationcuesthatarelostintextcommunicationespeciallywhencommunicatingwithsomeonenew。Lsbehonestifyouusetextasyourmainmeansofcommunicationyouhaveasked,Whatdidtheymeanbythat?moreoftenthannot。Yswords。 ProtectingYourNewRelationshipfromTextLikeanewbornbaby,yourrelationshiphasadelicatecommunicationsoftspotthatneedsprotection。Thebestthingyoucandotoprotectthesoftspotfromtextingmisunderstandingsisfindawaytosaysomethinglikethefollowingearlyonintherelationship。 ItbesurprisedifIttextyouoransweryourtextswithshortresponses。ItusetextthatmuchuntilIknowsomeonewellbecause(Insertyourownweirdtextstoryhere)。 Orjustsay,Ilikeyoutoomuchtogetlostintranslationviatext。