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　　标题：15QualitiesYouNeedtoDevelopMentalToughness
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　　Weallreachcriticalpointsinourliveswhereourmentaltoughnessistested。Itmightbebecauseofatoxicfriendorcolleague，adeadendjob，orastrugglingrelationship。
　　Whateverthechallenge，youhavetobestrong，seethingsthroughanewlens，andtakedecisiveactionifyouwanttomovethroughitsuccessfully。
　　Itsoundseasy。Weallwantgoodfriends，goodjobs，andgoodrelationships。
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　　Ishardtobementallytough，especiallywhenyoufeelstuck。Theabilitytobreakthemoldandtakeaboldnewdirectionrequiresthatextragrit，daring，andspunkthatonlythementallytoughestpeoplehave。
　　Isfascinatinghowmentallytoughpeoplesetthemselvesapartfromthecrowd。Whereothersseeimpenetrablebarriers，theyseechallengestoovercome。
　　WhenThomasEsfactoryburnedtothegroundin1914，destroyingoneofakindprototypesandcausing23millionindamage，Esresponsewassimple：Thankgoodnessallourmistakeswereburnedup。Nowwecanstartfreshagain。
　　Esreactionistheepitomeofmentaltoughnessseeingopportunityandtakingactionwhenthingslookbleak。
　　Therearehabitsyoucandeveloptoimproveyourmentaltoughness。Infact，thehallmarksofmentallytoughpeopleareactuallystrategiesthatyoucanbeginusingtoday。
　　1。Emotionalintelligence。
　　Emotionalintelligenceisthecornerstoneofmentaltoughness。Youcannotbementallytoughwithouttheabilitytofullyunderstandandtoleratestrongnegativeemotionsanddosomethingproductivewiththem。Momentsthattestyourmentaltoughnessareultimatelytestingyouremotionalintelligence（EQ）。
　　UnlikeyourIQ，whichisfixed，yourEQisaflexibleskillthatyoucanimprovewithunderstandingandeffort。Isnowonderthat90percentoftopperformershavehighEQs，andthatpeoplewithhighEQsearn28，000moreannually（onaverage）thantheirlowEQcounterparts。
　　UnfortunatelyEQskillsareinshortsupply。TalentSmarthastestedmorethanamillionpeople，vefoundthatjust36percentoftheseareabletoaccuratelyidentifytheiremotionsastheyhappen。
　　2。Confidence。
　　Whetheryouthinkyoucan，reright。HenryFord
　　MentallytoughpeoplesubscribetoFsnotionthatyourmentalityhasapowerfuleffectonyourabilitytosucceed。Tsafact。ArecentstudyattheUniversityofMelbourneshowedthatconfidentpeoplewentontoearnhigherwagesandgetpromotedmorequicklythanothersdid。
　　Trueconfidenceasopposedtothefalseconfidencepeopleprojecttomasktheirinsecuritieshasalookallitsown。Mentallytoughpeoplehaveanupperhandoverthedoubtfulandtheskittishbecausetheirconfidenceinspiresothersandhelpsthemtomakethingshappen。
　　3。Theabilitytoneutralizetoxicpeople。
　　Dealingwithdifficultpeopleisfrustratingandexhaustingformost。Mentallytoughpeoplecontroltheirinteractionswithtoxicpeoplebykeepingtheirfeelingsincheck。Whentheyneedtoconfrontatoxicperson，theyapproachthesituationrationally。Ttallowangerorfrustrationtofuelthechaos。Tsstandpointandareabletofindcommongroundandsolutionstoproblems。Evenwhenthingscompletelyderail，mentallytoughpeopleareabletotakethetoxicpersonwithagrainofsalttoavoidlettinghimorherbringthemdown。
　　4。Knowinghowtoembracechange。
　　Mentallytoughpeopleareflexibleandareconstantlyadapting。Theyknowthatfearofchangeisparalyzingandamajorthreattotheirsuccessandhappiness。Theylookforchangethatislurkingjustaroundthecorner，andtheyformaplanofactionshouldthesechangesoccur。
　　Onlywhenyouembracechangecanyoufindthegoodinit。Yregoingtorecognize，andcapitalizeon，theopportunitiesthatchangecreates。
　　Yreboundtofailwhenyoukeepdoingthesamethingsyoualwayshaveinthehopethatignoringchangewillmakeitgoaway。Afterall，thedefinitionofinsanityisdoingthesamethingoverandoveragainandexpectingadifferentresult。
　　5。Sayingno。
　　ResearchconductedattheUniversityofCaliforniainSanFranciscoshowedthatthemoredifficultyyouhavesayingno，themorelikelyyouaretoexperiencestress，burnout，andevendepression。Mentallytoughpeopleknowthatsayingnoishealthy，andtheyhavetheselfesteemandforesighttomaketheirnoesclear。
　　Wstimetosayno，ItthinkIImnotcertain。Theysaynowithconfidencebecausetheyknowthatsayingnotoanewcommitmenthonorstheirexistingcommitmentsandgivesthemtheopportunitytosuccessfullyfulfillthem。
　　Thementallytoughalsoknowhowtoexertselfcontrolbysayingnotothemselves。Theydelaygratificationandavoidimpulsiveactionthatcausesharm。
　　6。KnowingthatfearistheNo。1sourceofregret。
　　Mentallytoughpeopleknowthat，whenallissaidanddone，ttakefarmorethantheywilltheirfailures。Dtbeafraidtotakerisks。
　　Ioftenhearpeoplesay，Wstheworstthingthatcanhappentoyou？Willitkillyou？Yet，ttheworstthingthatcanhappentoyou。Trestillalive。
　　Ittakesrefinedselfawarenesstowalkthistightropebetweendwellingandremembering。Dwellingtoolongonyourmistakesmakesyouanxiousandgunshy，whileforgettingaboutthemcompletelymakesyouboundtorepeatthem。Thekeytobalanceliesinyourabilitytotransformfailuresintonuggetsofimprovement。Thiscreatesthetendencytogetrightbackupeverytimeyoufalldown。
　　7。Embracingfailure
　　Mentallytoughpeopleembracefailurebecausetheyknowthattheroadtosuccessispavedwithit。Nooneeverexperiencedtruesuccesswithoutfirstembracingfailure。
　　Breonthewrongpath，yourmistakespavethewayforyoutosucceed。Trefeelingthemostfrustratedandthemoststuck。Isthisfrustrationthatforcesyoutothinkdifferently，tolookoutsidethebox，vebeenmissing。
　　8。Withoutdwellingonmistakes。
　　Mentallytoughpeopleknowthatwhereyoufocusyourattentiondeterminesyouremotionalstate。Wrefacing，youcreateandprolongnegativeemotionsandstress，whichhindersperformance。Whenyoufocusonactionstobetteryourselfandyourcircumstances，youcreateasenseofpersonalefficacy，whichproducespositiveemotionsandimprovesperformance。
　　Mentallytoughpeopledistancethemselvesfromtheirmistakes，buttheydosowithoutforgettingthem。Bykeepingtheirmistakesatasafedistance，yetstillhandyenoughtoreferto，theyareabletoadaptandadjustforfuturesuccess。
　　9。Refusingtoletanyonelimityourjoy
　　Whenyoursenseofpleasureandsatisfactionisderivedfromcomparingyourselfwithothers，youarenolongerthemasterofyourownhappiness。Whenmentallytoughpeoplefeelgoodaboutsomethingtheydo，sopinionsoraccomplishmentstakethatawayfromthem。
　　Wsimpossibletoturnoffyourreactionstowhatothersthinkofyou，thavetocompareyourselfwithothers，sopinionswithagrainofsalt。Mentallytoughpeopleknowthatregardlessofwhatpeoplethinkofthematanyparticularmoment，reneverasgoodorbadaspeoplesaytheyare。
　　10。Andnotlimitingthejoyofothers。
　　Mtpassjudgmentonothersbecausetheyknowthateveryonehassomethingtooffer，tneedtotakeotherpeopledownanotchtofeelgoodaboutthemselves。
　　Comparingyourselfwithotherpeopleislimiting。Jremassiveenergystealers。Mtwastetimeorenergysizingpeopleupandworryingaboutwhetherornottheymeasureup。
　　Insteadofwastingyourenergyonjealousy，funnelthatenergyintoappreciation。Whenyoucelebratethesuccessofotherpeople，youbothbenefit。
　　11。Exercising。
　　AstudyconductedattheEasternOntarioResearchInstitutefoundthatpeoplewhoexercisedtwiceaweekfor10weeksfeltmoresocially，intellectually，andathleticallycompetent。Theyalsoratedtheirbodyimageandselfesteemhigher。Bestofall，ratherthanthephysicalchangesintheirbodiesbeingresponsiblefortheuptickinconfidence，whichiskeytomentaltoughness，itwastheimmediate，endorphinfueledpositivityfromexercisethatmadeallthedifference。
　　12。Gettingenoughsleep。
　　Isdifficulttooverstatetheimportanceofsleeptoincreasingyourmentaltoughness。Whenyousleep，yourbrainremovestoxicproteins，reawake。Unfortunately，reasleep，tgetenoughsleep，thetoxicproteinsremaininyourbraincells，wreakinghavocbyimpairingyourabilitytothinksomethingnoamountofcaffeinecanfix。
　　Mentallytoughpeopleknowthattheirselfcontrol，focus，tgetenoughortherightkindofsleep，sotheymakequalitysleepatoppriority。
　　13。Limitingcaffeineintake。
　　Drinkingexcessiveamountsofcaffeinetriggersthereleaseofadrenaline，thesourceofthefightorflightresponse。Thefightorflightmechanismsidestepsrationalthinkinginfavorofafasterresponsetoensuresurvival。Thisisgreatwhenabearischasingyoubutnotsogreatwhenlifethrowsyouacurve。
　　Whencaffeineputsyourbrainandbodyintothishyperarousedstateofstress，youremotionsoverrunyourbehavior。Cslonghalflifeensuresyoustaythiswayasittakesitssweettimeworkingitswayoutofyourbody。Mentallytoughpeopleknowthattoomuchcaffeineistrouble，tletitgetthebetterofthem。
　　14。Notwaitingforanapologytoforgive。
　　Mresorry。Gshappiness。Hateandangerareemotionalparasitesthatdestroyyourjoyinlife。
　　Thenegativeemotionsthatcomewithholdingontoagrudgecreateastressresponseinyourbody，andholdingontostresscanhavedevastatingconsequences（bothphysicallyandmentally）。Whenyouforgivesomeone，itsimplyfreesyoufrombeingtheireternalvictim。
　　15。Beingrelentlesslypositive。
　　Keepyoureyesonthenewsforanylengthoftime，sjustoneendlesscycleofwar，violentattacks，fragileeconomies，failingcompanies，andenvironmentaldisasters。Iseasytothinktheworldisheadeddownhillfast。
　　Andwhoknows？Maybeitis。Btcontrol。Insteadoftryingtostartarevolutionovernight，theyfocustheirenergyondirectingthetwothingsthatarecompletelywithintheirpowertheirattentionandtheireffort。
　　Bringingitalltogether。
　　Mentaltoughnessisnotaninnatequalitybestoweduponaselectfew。Itcanbeachievedandenjoyed。
　　Whatelsemakespeoplementallytough？Howmanyofthese15qualitiesdescribeyou？PleaseshareyourthoughtsinthecommentssectionbelowasIlearnjustasmuchfromyouasyoudofromme。