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　　标题：15SmallThingsParentsShouldDoToTheirChildrenEveryDayToMakeThemFeelLoved
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　　Canyourememberwhatmadeyoufeellovedasakid？Thinkaboutit。Maybeyourememberhavingagreattimewithyourparents，holidays，beinghelpedwithhomeworkorjusttellingthemafewsecrets。Asaparentnow，areyoumakingtheefforttomakeyourkidsfeelloved？Veryoften，itisthesmallthingsthatcount。Hereare15waystomakeyourkidsfeelloved。Whenyoubecomegrandparents，youwillbetouchedthattheystillrememberthem。
　　1。Turnoffyoursmartphone。
　　Whenyougethomeoryourkidsgetbackfromschool，turnoffyourphoneandgivethemyourfullattentionatleastforthefirsthalfhourorso。Thekidslovethisbecausetheyknowyouarenotgoingtobedistractedbytextsastheytellyouwhathappenedatschool。TheSwedishgovernmentdidapollanddiscoveredthat33ofkidscomplainedthattheirparentswerealwaysontheirsmartphones。
　　2。TurnofftheTVandallgadgetsatmealtimes。
　　NotmuchfunwhenkidshavetocompetewithTVcommercialsoreverybodytextingaway。Mealtimesareraremomentstoenjoyeachother’scompany。Thereareenormousadvantagesforkids。Theyeatmorehealthilyasitisnotrushed。Theyalsoenjoythecompanionshipoftheirparentsandtheyaremuchlesslikelytohaveaneatingdisorderlateron。
　　3。Makebedtimeapreciousmoment。
　　Withyoungerkids，theywillalwaystreasurethosemomentswhenyoureadthemastoryastheydrifthappilyintosleep。Itisenormouslyreassuringanditisauniquebondingexperienceforparentsandkids。Theextrabonusisthatthisalsohelpsyourchild’sbraindevelopment。
　　4。Showphysicalaffection。
　　Countlessstudiesshowthatkidsthriveonwarmthandaffection。Thechildfeelslovedandwillhaveagreaterselfesteem。Thereisnoneedtogooverboardbutakissorahugonceadaywilldoyoubothalotofgood。Itlessensthechancesofyourkidsbecomingaggressive，antisocialandhavingotherbehavioralproblems。Whileadolescentsmightbeembarrassedatthephysicalaffection，thereshouldalwaysbewordsofsupportandempathytotakeitsplace。
　　5。Spendqualitytimewitheachchild。
　　Itiswonderfulwhenaparentorbothparentscanspendqualitytimeonaoneononebasiswiththeirkids。Thisisgreatbecausetheyfeelspecialandtheirbrothersandsistersarenotaround。Itcanbeanythingfromplayingsports，cooking，orhelpingwithchores。Thereisnobetterwayofshowingyourkidsthatyoureallyloveandcherishthem。
　　6。Disciplinethemwithloveandaffection。
　　Therearestillparentswhobelievethatbeatingakidisprobablythemosteffectiveandtimesavingwayofdealingwithdiscipline。Thekidlearnsthatviolenceisaneffectivewayofdealingwithdisagreementandconflict。Thekeytosuccessfulparentingisnottoswitchonthelovewhentheydowellanddenyitwhentheymisbehave。Therearenoconditionsbutjustasteadyflowofaffectionsothatkidsfeeltheirparents’loveistrulyunconditional。
　　7。Leavefunnyandaffectionatenotesandmessages。
　　Itcanbeatextoralittlenotetuckedundertheirpillow。Itcanbeajoke，anaffectionatenicknameoranythingthatshowsthekidstheyarestillonyourradar。
　　8。Lookintotheireyes。
　　Thebestwayofcommunicatingwithyourkidsistolookthemstraightintheireyesasyoutalktothem。Eyecontactissoimportantinthisagewheneveryoneisgluedtosomecomputer，deviceorphone。Thechildcanlearntowaituntilheorshehasyourfullattentionbutthisisworthwaitingfor。Itisalsoagreatlessontoteachachildthateyecontactisaveryimportantsocialskillastheygetolder。
　　9。Smilemoreoften。
　　Whatbetterwayofshowingyourloveandwarmthforyourchildrenthansmilingeverytimetheycomeintotheroom。Thisimmediatelyputsthemateaseandalsoconfirmsthattheirpresenceisvaluedandthattheyarenotanuisance。Theremaybetimeswhentheywillneedtoberemindedaboutbadbehaviorbutwhynotusetheother90toshowthatyoulovethem？
　　10。Beagreatrolemodel。
　　Howmanytimeshaveyoutoldyourkidswhattodo，howtobepoliteandtoalwaysweartheirseatbelt？Oftentimes，parentsforgetthattheymustbetheperfectrolemodelsbecausechildrenaregreatcopycats。Nobetterwaytoshowthatyouloveyourkidsthantowalkthetalk。Bekind，affectionateandcaringtoothersandteachyourkidstobecolorblindaboutrace。
　　11。Involvethemindecisionmaking。
　　Whattowearforschoolthenextdayorwheretovisitwhenyougoonholidayscanbedecidedtogetherwithyourkids。Makesureyourkidsarefullyinvolvedandengaged。Itisalsogreatforkidstostartlearninghowtomakedecisionswiththeirparents’guidance。
　　12。Justplaywiththem。
　　Whenkidswereinterviewed，theyoftensaidthattheyfelttherewasfartoomuchgoingonandthattheywereoverscheduled。Theyreallywantsomedowntimewiththeirparentswheretheycanjustplay，havefun，laughandbetogether。Itmightbeagoodideatocutoutoneortwoactivitiessothatyoujustdonotendupbeingtheirchauffeur！
　　13。Takeactionwhenyourchildisunhappy。
　　Theremaybeproblemsatschoolwithbullyingorwiththesportscoach。Showthatyoucareandasktoseethepeopleinvolvedandjusttrytofindoutwhatisthecauseofthetensionandunease。Itmaywellbethechild’sfaultbutwhenitisnot，thereisanidealopportunitytoshowthatyouarethereforthemandyouwillbetheirchampion。Youcandopracticalthingslikeparticipatinginabullypreventionprogramatyourkids’schoolandalsoteachingyourchildhowtoreactwhenbullied。
　　14。Savethecardsandgifts。
　　Whenyourchildgivesyouanote，funnydrawingorlittlepoem，showthatyoucarebytreasuringthem。Puttheminaspecialdrawerorfolder。Showthechildaphotoofwhereyoukeepafavoritepictureinyouroffice。Youcantakedigitalphotosoftheartworkandstorethemonaphotosharingsite。Showyourkidtheresultsatregularintervals。ItgivesthechildagreatsenseofachievementItalsosavesloadsofpreciousstoragespaceathome。
　　15。Neverinterrupttheirstories。
　　Whenachildhasastorytotellaboutwhathappenedatschoolneverinterruptthembuthearthemout。Thesamegoeswhentheywanttoshareabookwithyouorshowyouapicturestory。Theywillfeellovedandwanted。Ifparentsignorethemorarefartoobusy，kidswillbethefirsttosufferanditislikelytolastintoadolescenceandadulthoodunlesswereallymaketheeffortnow。
　　Loveandaffectionarethefoundationofhappiness。Byshowingkidsthisloveeverysingleday，wearegivingthemthegreatestgiftofall。
　　“Happinessisthemeaningandthepurposeoflife，thewholeaimandendofhumanexistence。”Aristotle