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　　Eofsorts，truth。IseasytoidentifythemonocultureofGermanyinthe1930s，orAmericain1776。Isclearwhatpeopleatthosetimes，inthoseplaces，evenwheninreality，thatwascertainlynotalwaysthecase。
　　Theobjectivityrequiredtoseetheeffectsofpresentmonocultureisverydifficulttomaintain（anymore）。。。scrucial。Stinherentlyagreewith，withouteverrealizing。
　　Thefundamentalsofanygivenmonoculturetendtosurroundhowtoliveyourbestlife，howtoliveabetterlife，smostworthlivingfor（nation，religion，self，etc。）andthereareanumberofwaysinwhichourcurrentsystemhasusshootingourselvesinthefeetaswetrytostepforward。Simply，thereareafewfundamentalsonhappiness，decisionmaking，tseemtounderstand。
　　Sohere，eightofthedailybehaviorsandunconscioushabitsthatarekeepingyoufromthelifeyoureallywant。
　　1。Youbelievethatcreatingyourbestpossiblelifeisamatterofdecidingwhatyouwantandthengoingafterit，butinreality，youarepsychologicallyincapableofbeingabletopredictwhatwillmakeyouhappy。
　　Ysknown，sowhenyouchoosewhatyouwantforthefuture，reactuallyjustrecreatingasolutionoranidealofthepast。Ironically，tcometofruition（thingsneverlookthewaywethinktheywill）yousuffer，vefailed，whenreally，remostlikelyexperiencingsomethingbetterthanyoucouldhavechosenforyourselfatthetime。（Moralofthestory：Ltaloftyidealreservedforthezenandenlightened，tinfiltratedwithillusions。。。stheonlythingyourbraincanactuallycomprehend。）
　　2。Yarrive，soyouareconstantlytryingtotakeasnapshotofyourlifeandseeifyoucanbehappyyet。
　　Youaccidentallyconvinceyourselfthatanygivenmomentisyourlife，wheninreality，itisamomentinyourlife。Btheyare，howgoodthestorysounds，howsomeoneelsewouldjudgethesummary。（Ifatanypointyoufindyourselfthinking：isthisallthereis？reforgettingthateverythingistransitory。Tat。Trerushingtowardisdeath。Accomplishinggoalsisnotsuccess。Howmuchyoulearnandenjoyandexpandintheprocessofdoingthemis。）
　　3。Ygutinstincts，good，bad。
　　Whenyouconsiderdoingsomethingthatyoutrulyloveandareinvestedin，youaregoingtofeelaninfluxoffearandpain，mostlybecauseitwillinvolvebeingvulnerable。Whenitcomestomakingdecisions，youhavetoknowthatbadfeelingsarenotdeterrents。Theyareindicatorsthatyouwanttodosomething，butitscaresyou（whicharethethingsmostworthdoing，ifyouaskme）。Notwantingtodosomethingwouldmakeyoufeelindifferentaboutit。Fearinterest。
　　4。Yreafraidofactuallylivingit。
　　Thepatternofunnecessarilycreatingcrisisinyourlifeisactuallyanavoidancetechnique。Ireafraidof。Yreneverupsetforthereasonyouthinkyouare：atthecoreofyourdesiretocreateaproblemissimplythefearofbeingwhoyouare，andlivingthelifeyouwant。
　　5。Youthinkthattochangeyourbeliefs，youhavetoadoptanewlineofthinking，ratherthanseekexperiencesthatmakethatthinkingselfevident。
　　Abeliefiswhatyouknowtobetruebecauseexperiencehasmadeitevidenttoyou。Ifyouwanttochangeyourlife，changeyourbeliefs。Ifyouwanttochangeyourbeliefs，gooutandhaveexperiencesthatmakethemrealtoyou。Nottheoppositewayaround。
　　6。Yareroadblockstoachievingwhatyouwant，wheninreality，theyarepathways。
　　Ithearditbefore，MarcusAureliussumsthisupwell：Theimpedimenttoactionadvancesaction。Whatstandsinthewaybecomestheway。RyanHolidayexplainsitevenmoregracefully：Theobstacleistheway。Simply，forcesyoutotakeactiontoresolveit。Thatactionleadsyoudownthepathyouhadultimatelyintendedtogoanyway，inyourlifeultimatelycomedowntohowyouresistwhoyouareandhowyourlifenaturallyunfolds。
　　7。Youthinkyourpastdefinesyou，andworse，youthinkthatitisanunchangeablereality，whenreally，yourperceptionofitchangesasyoudo。
　　Becauseexperienceisalwaysmultidimensional，thereareavarietyofmemories，experiences，feelings，youcanchoosetorecall。。。andwhatyouchooseisindicativeofyourpresentstateofmind。Somanypeoplegetcaughtupinallowingthepasttodefinethem，orhauntthem，simplybecausetheyhavenotevolvedtotheplaceofseeinghowthepastdidnotpreventthemfromachievingthelifetheywant。。。itfacilitatedit（see：theobstacleistheway）。Ttmeantodisregardorglossoverpainfulortraumaticevents，butsimplytobeabletorecallthemwithacceptanceandtobeabletoplacetheminthestorylineofyourpersonalevolution。
　　8。Youtrytochangeotherpeople，situationsandthings（oryoujustcomplaingetupsetaboutthem）whenangerselfrecognition。
　　Mostnegativeemotionalreactionsareyouidentifyingadisassociatedaspectofyourself。Yarethepartsofyouthat，atsomepoint，notokay，soyousuppressedthemandhavedoneeverythinginyourpowernottoacknowledgethem。Ytactuallydislikethesepartsofyourself，though，youabsolutelylovethem。Sowhenyouseesomebodyelsedisplayingoneofthesetraits，itabsolutelyinfuriatesyou，notbecauseyouinherentlydislikeit，butbecauseyouhavetofightyourdesiretofullyintegrateitintoyourwholeconsciousness。Thethingsyouloveaboutothersarethethingsyouloveaboutyourself。Thethingsyouhateaboutothersarethethingsyoucannotseeinyourself。